To approach a girl you have to have a reason. Either because you like her, or you just wanna "talk" to her. In the latter case, it's really easy. Because you don't have feelings for her. However in the first case, to approach a girl to like her, first you have to KNOW HER. She could be the nicest lookin girl with the dumbest brains, which by the way turns me off. I may not be the most suave sophisticated individual but I have my reasons and expectations. Anyways, to know her, you must know her from someone (friends, relatives??)or from somebody else(oerheard a conversation about her), or she may be popular so you may have simply heard about her. Once you know that information, make plans. How do you start a conversation with her with one of the "things" you heard about her as the topic of conversation? Maybe she's involved in some organization, and you wanna show respect and appreciation? Don;t compliment her on what she already hears a lot, like "Hey, I really like what you did did with....or I really like your hair(WTF!!!)...or something like , "Hey, wassup! I am in that lecture with you.....", she'll most probably go "ok....so??". It's usually the easiest if you have something very legitimate to talk about. If she's in your class or at work, and youre working on similar things, you can relate to it and work together on it, or maybe make a suggestion that you wanted to work with someone. Be professional first. not romantic. Don;t complement girls on their looks right away. Women are different these days. They wanna feel that they're successful with their lives and that people appreciate them not just for their beauty. Tap into that hidden door and you'll be successful. Approach girls who have an eye for you, that's even easier, you know the ones that you "feel" are checkin you out from afar? Those are easier cuz they've done half the work for you. Now all it takes is you get your ass up and go talk to her about something RELEVANT. But don't just talk to her only if you're in a crowd. Talk to people around you, you gotta be friendly. Don;t make her feel like youre hitting on her. She should be "JUST ANOTHER STUDENT, OR COWORKER, OR WHATEVER your situation is". And act cool but smart as hell! Girls like sexy cool nerds, (if you wanna settle down with a nice wholesome girl that is) I'm not personally looking for a relationship but my experience is that it's kinda hard to make a girl to like you. It's like trying to win a battle. Mostly guys do that simply because she's hot or pretty. Approaching a girl is never hard. It's why you want to approach her for that is difficult. And stay away from the popular ones. They are hard to get to. First of all dont GO FOR GIRLS just because you feel the need to or feel that you need a girlfriend because everyone has one. That'll solve half your problem. REMEMBER, YOU CANNOT BE YOURSELF WHEN YOURE with some youre attracted to. But don't be someone you never imagined in your dreams that you would be either.