my take is, if you really want to advise your brothers and sisters back home, tell them to study hard, get good grades, good SAT scores, and get them to think about writing compelling essays that will make the admissions officer cry and go "look maurine, this poor nepali boy (if you are a sherpa, that helps. better if you are a nepali girl) worked 40 hrs a week fighting women trafficking while maintainign an A average." that way, you can get into a good school with ample financial aid and focus on your education and future...yeah, tell your siblings to study hard rather than hang around thamel and himalayan java checking out the latest fashion trends and gossipping about whos' going out with who, or hanging around trying to prove their manhoods by getting into gang fights...the younger you get them to understand this, the better it is.....tell them that the lazyness is accruing interest right now, and that they will have to pay it when they come to the US...not everyone is super bright...but everyone can be hardworking...it is a OK to be lazy...but it is not cool to be lazy and complain....so tell your siblings this..