DC Girl - sorry to be butting in rather rudely as I happen to belong to the opposite lot, not your 'weaker sex' ones! Ahem.. :) Only one word for you if I may: Carpe Diem.. (I almost said, Carpe bloody Diem:) :) But my wiry handsome Adjutant, Captain Danny Rex aka Anonymous, from the grand gripping Sandhurst-Puccini opera, would prob'ly say: "Dun stop blasting your keyboard there!"" Yeah do that, will you? The 'release' effect is massive - doubtless you'll know what you really want in at the end of your 'blasting the keyboard'. Yeah, a pint of bitter ale.. that's what you'll want! Grrrr.... (Note: I have just replaced my keyboard - too much blasting away!) No jokes aside, okay my only advice - a serious one this time: Stick to your side of the pond, for you won't know what it's like on the other side of it. It might as well be murky and deep for all the reasons in the world and you'd find it hard to come out of it, once 'in' there. Well, that's if you wanted to. So, wait but most impotantly, be patient. Time is a greater healer as they say.. My 'two cents'! Right, have I just read one of those trashy manuals? With one of those relationship gurus woffling on about how one in a great relationship must act and all the rest of it but when the guru knows that he is the one to be given counselling, having lived through divorces and his never-ending rounds of 'bonking' (excuse my French) around with women he can lay his hands on. What a sad old git! (Note: I AM NOT ONE OF HIS TYPES.. so, let's make that crystal clear! ) To laughter and life. Carpe diem