to lop or not to lop.. frankly it s all so confusing ..Get away from it all.Join a monastery ...the Peace Corps, anything to get away from her .Re kya. But hey,on a more serious note chahi, there might be ways to win her affections as long as she hasn't as yet given her heart out to someone else already. Uphill task ,boy, but nothing is impossible:) Good luck. gone with the wind....