on number 3 ) , it's " you shouldn't have"... Also, Arrange marriages are the best.. now, i'm not talking about arranges marriages that used to take place 50 yrs ago.. I'm also not talking about Indian arrange marriages.. i'm talking about arrange marriages that takes place in modern Nepali society, where parents bring up potential dulaha rajas.. and dulahi ranees make selection... you don't have to pick if you don't want to, u get pleanty of choices.. something that westerners wish they had... i don't know why everyone is so oppose to arrange marriage and think the miserable western way it cool, or something...