Hey Pagli, I kind of missed the thread somehow, which have been rather occurring syndrome these days. Have not had chance to read 90% of it. But, I did skimmed thru your problem. Apparently you have found the ideal solution which trails between standing up for yourself, yet not going overboard and still holding your dignity. "Here what I'll do next: 1. When someone says bhote to any mangolian, I'll request him not to say so and explain him that, that hurts me. 2. If still continue, I'll try to avoid him. 3. If still continue, I'll take this issue to Nepali Samaj that we have in our university. 4. If still not solved, I'll post in sajha for further suggestion." Malai sarai ramro lagyo timile lekheko yo. Such a level-headed way to counter the ire; so to speak. But add point no. 5. That being, if it is not solved at all and if it still disturbs you, just say "fuk ya all'. I know that you know that you are special. And NO ONE should be allowed to make you feel low. And YES, your concern is justified. I did have significant number of Manange, Lama, and Sherpa and even few Tibetan Nepali friends among other large bunch of pals. What and how we talked then and now (which is very rare) are completely different. Just let them know, like you stated in no.1 and remember, if they still hurt you, KNOWINGLY, you might want to reconsider your friendship. The first step you said just clicked with me. Your friends should be able to understand your sentiments and respect that. Good luck! IndisGuise:)