I wonder why people make such a big deal about virginity. If you kiss someone before marriage that is ok, but if you have sex that is big issue. Come on... in both the case you are sharing your feelings and touching each other so whats the big deal.... kissing also has some sensation and you are putting you tounge in some body else mouth... same with sex it has some sensation feeling you are putting your private organ in somebody else organ so whats the big deal. for me both looks same... if you want to be virgin till marriage then do not love or kiss anyone too... if kiss is ok then oral sex is ok and sex is ok. I have seen so many catholic gals who are ready for oral sex but not sex... wtf... what is the difference... oh I am ready to take it in mouth but not there.... it cracks me up....