hey virginkt, i haven't read all of the stuff above in detail, but i just wanted to throw in a couple of my own thoughts on the matter. 1. a lot of guys end up losing their virginity just for the heck of losing their virginity. why? simply because it's not considered cool among guys to remain a virgin. now, the first experience may mean nothing to some so it does not matter either way. and for some it may cast an indelible impression. these ppl wish they had saved themselves when they finally meet the love of their lives. 2. i have a feeling that it has already started to be uncool amongst nepali girls to remain virgin. the first experience for women is probably more significant than it is for guys. but i feel that it's doing it simply for losing is a pity, IMO. *for some*, it may be like opeing the floodgates. once you are no longer a virgin, you think to yourself, "well since the i've done it once already, i might as well go all the way with as many people as possible. what difference does it make anyway." i'm not saying this is bad or good. i'm just saying that as a woman, you probably want the experience to mean something special. and good things are sometimes worth waiting for. i think that for guys the experience is more mechanical and less emotional. at least from what i've seen. 3. when we are constantly bombarded with subtle and blatantly patent messages about sex everywhere, it is important to really think for yourself what you want. listen to diverse opinions, but to think for yourself. not everyone is alike, and the ppl make different decisions that suit their values and points of view...anyway good luck.