Hush - I only wish I knew all the answers (sigh). Thanks for sharing your perspective. I have half a mind to continue on but any further discusion on this will most likely be about splitting hairs and I dont want to hijack the thread for that purpose. Maybe when you are fittu and I am fittu, we can start a separte Sajha thread about it, ya? ... he he And hey, that chocolate idea is awfully romantic but what if she keeps eating chocolate after chocolate and getting fatter and fatter? Then you have to send her to the gymn ... and a sweaty smelly sweetheart on treadmill isn't quite my idea of romance. LOL. I'll give you the last word.