Diabetes hola hai ... dherai chocolate nakhau. LOL. Poor jokes aside, that's a very interesting way of looking at things - thanks for sharing your thoughts. It appears you have organized and structured your thoughts on the subject much better than I have. You think the way you do for reasons you know best, and I will not seek to find out what they are, but I must confess I am a little curious about one thing you mentioned - how do you not ask questions of her or him? I think its a great idea but I wonder if it is something too difficult to humanly do. I mean when you share the same bedroom, bathroom and bank account can questions really be avoided? For example, where do you draw the line between personal freedom and accountability to a common set of responsibilities when you know he or she is cheating on you? Perhaps an extreme example, but there are countless other examples that crop up in the course of a relationship that hover over this very line. But I am with you as far as making that a goal to strive for. I just haven't been too succesfull at it - have you?