Salokya writes: "मेरो उद्देश्य त नेपाली समाज यौनमा कति उदार बन्दै गइरहेको छ भनी देखाउनु मात्र हो" ***** My God, What an impossibly lofty उद्देश्य!! But the question is: WHICH नेपाली समाज are you talking about? There is NO such thing as some monolithic, one-size-fits-all (no pun intended, sorry!) नेपाली समाज anywhere in and out of Nepal. Male -famale relations of Rana Tharus of Kanchanpur, for instance, are different from the male-female relations among the SJB Ranas of Thapathali, and so on. Besides, with a population growth rate that is scarily one of the highest in the world, surely Nepalis know more than one way of achieving sexual satisfaction, hoina ra? Besides, in a country of 24 million-plus people, what wonder is it that there are some who enjoy spouse-swapping and other forms of apparently consensual -- if not exactly ordinary -- sexual practices? Do these wife-swappers make up the mainstream? No. Are they and their cohorts likely to make up the mainstream to lend credence to Salokya's point that about the उदार-ness of Nepali society? No. By any measure, they make up the outliers, the people on the fringe, on the margins when it comes to preferring sexual habits, and that's perfectly that's fine as long as these people do what they do consensually behind closed doors. Neither the Rajya nor the Fourth Estate has any business to pull back the curtains and "trap" private citizens going about their own business in their own prvacy without apparently harming others. And do they show us "नेपाली समाज यौनमा कति उदार बन्दै गइरहेको छ?" No. Not at all. They just show -- assuming, of course, this whole thing is true-- just a slice of "yesto pani hooncha among SOME Nepalis". That's about it. Sure, it's titilating (again, no bad pun intended!) for a short while, but that does not exactly make people rush out and start swapping spouses. Personally, I am more ENTERTAINED by Salokya's breathless "yipeee, look what I have found . . ." tone than by what goes on in that supposed spouse -swapping club. To paraphrase that character from the movie The Other Sister, "Was it Madonna who invented sex?" What's next, Salokya? "Nepalis who have sex with animals and here are some screenshots of their Web page?" . . . as another faux-Kinsey installment of this नेपाली समाज यौनमा कति उदार बन्दै गइरहेको छ भनी देखाउ" saga? oohi ashu