Yes often it happens John. Sometimes circumstances puts us in a situation where we can not help but go with the flow. And no, it would not have been any better had you refused. At least you have a memmory of her. It's weird how some people have some weird unexplainable warmth that touches you. But strictly speaking about myself, I would stop short of making any 'didi, baini' with emotional attachment. I have my own and I for one would not share the same love & care by making othesr my 'didi or baini'. The one I have is all I need. And god knows I love her beyond rationality. I know love like happiness grows more when shared. But (striclty speaking for myself) I honestly would not want to create relations as such. wel if it happens, then well...!!! IndisGuise:)