Hey Upendra... well about the mariage thing.. I totally agree with you.. I mean if you are 21 and the gal is 21 too.. this is no time for you to think abt getting married... and about the gal being forced to marry.. well parents are more understanding then ppl really assume them to be.... I think that if the mom knows abt you then she will prolly listen to her daughter.. after all they really want her happiness... and as dreamz said... feelings might change.. it is very important for 2 ppl to be together or at least meet once in a while... IF you are sure that you cant go there in the near future to meet her and that if she cant come here too.. then you should prolly talk it out with her.. tell her what situation you are in and of course.. if it is true love as you claim it to be... then she will understand.. and I dont think that you should be worring abt what will happen after 4 or even 2 years... just take it as it goes... right now the situation is not so bad.. you are just thinking abt it too much.. take life as it comes... you might never be in a situation that you are assuming you will be in after 2-4 yrs. just keep comunicating with her... make her UNDERSTAND how you feel... it is very important for her to know your feelings... and work out the problems as they come... dun pre-plan things.. normally the plans dun work out.. and all the best.. I really hope that your relationship will be a success!!:)