Let me assume the woman, as it stands, is totally innocent and devoted to the husband. The only motive of the woman is sharing of love for return of the household. Then it should not take a mathematician to see how best to form an equation. The husband has mercilessly left the wife, after having gotten her to take care of the 3 step kids and one biological kid. That much assuming she is innocent. The woman has to take him to court no matter whether it is her fault or not. Get the 50% of the asset plus alimony for the 4th kid, (and yes let the new lover take care of the 3 kids if necessary). In the mean time the woman must, I say, MUST move on, if she has not already. I think this is no brainer. The challenge might be to find out how much asset he has, hidden and unhidden. If the man is from Nepal (from another country, more difficult here), make sure his properties in Nepal is accounted for, not in Nepal, but in the US court. ------------- Women from Nepal getting through such problems is not new to the USA. Women and girls know about it better. They have got the freedom, used it and benefited from the freedom. Good for them. Alas, sometimes those benefits defy known/unknown consequences. I again think it is no brainer, but I still say they have got to learn that too. My $0.02 ------------ Indiguise, Do not take anything seriously in this thread, at least whatever I said here. Today I'm not in good mood.