I see MatrixGirl makes a lot of sense here. Blaming others is easy because it givs you an advantage. Winning is not what a relationship is all about, it neither is just giving. It is sharing. If a partner does not want to share, learn why not. If the reason is within your control and seems reasonable to you, adhre to that. If not say, good bye. I know, it is not easy to say good bye but what are you going to do? Saying good bye will hurt once but not saying so and just dwelling on failed relationship will hurt always. Think about it---perhaps neither choice is the best but which one is better? If you think your partner should honor your love then consider this also :other partner's withdrawl also deserves respect. aba arko byabastha nabhaye samma lai apna haath jagannath athawa haathi mera saathi dine prabho. Aba ke garne niyati ko khel ma kheladi bhayesi....