Hahahahhaah deep brp bro... Ma ta Ganesh than nagako barsau bityo.. prathana chai garchu :), timi chai pakkai La wko kitab agadi rakhera baseko hola:p words such as "contracts", "reasonable consideration", "offer" reminds me of courses such as, Mercantile Law, Business law I and II and Legal environment of business. LOL. Kanoon ko kitab le marne malai bro? Anyways back to the point. "Bro, malai sodhene ho bhane the point you make up here is quite subjective and closely floats around idealism." --> Subjective, I agree, in the sense that it is my belief that comes from my heart and whats in my head, and how i think :). Thus, it relates to me, and doesn't have to be the same way for others. "Closely floating with idealism", well I beg to differ here. I myself wud like to view as realism. I am not INSISTING to force anyone to compromise on what they do not believe and try to create an ideal situation. What i am trying to see is see the reality, which in this case is the feelings of the bride and her parents. And what is real and actually happening in OUR world. Common, we all know, the parents have their dreams, brides do as well. One can not say, I wud take u in the clothes that I GIVE to you, natra tata. So My saying trying to make other happy, actually relates to this situation in this case. In general though, ofcourse i would not cross the line, but having said that, sometimes in love there are no boundries, no lines. Ho ki kaso?:p "When you start to concede in the name of compromise, you have to be real careful there. When you try to regain, after realizing (the chances are you probably will) you went too far down, the territory you may have relinquished with love becomes a battleground. (the same is true for the other party involved in the direct relationship with you). " ----------Could not agree more. :) "If you keep thinking from their sides, then what are you left with? " --Exactly. But i never said, we should just think from THEIR side. I was just suggesting that sometimes, we should think from others prespective too. Esp. in situation which has as paramount imp. as this. After all, he is not marrying by himself, his bride is equally a part of it. Yesto ma ta garnau paryo ni prabhu:) "Perhaps parents do love their children unconditionally, but every other relationship between or among parties with mind of their own is not unconditional. Except for unconditional love, all relationships are contracts. Every offer has to be met with reasonable consideration. Since offer and consideration are both abstract here, the contract becomes quite volatile when defination of offer and consideration change between the involved parties. " --> ALmost Jammai buje and mane. Last ko lamo sentance chai alik buje buje, nabujje nabuje jasto bhayo. Lagyo maile bhaneko kura lai nai arko roop ma rakheko ho. Ofcourse volatile huncha. Right time, person, occasion, choice of words choose garena bhane ofcourse hucnha, yeuta party le extreme defination change garyo bhane huncha. Thats what i was suggesting to not to change or ask to change what has been defined. Having said that, i am open to change, definately against dowry, tara bhanne tarika po milena ki bhaneko... aba aru nai kehi ho bhane , maile bujina... yeso bujaidinu paryo timro strory jastai.:) Last ko sabai sahi lagcha malai, except idealism part. :) At last, in whatever way we try to define the situation, I believe, when there are more than 2 people involved, it serves both of them to give a thought about other party. After all : "Taali ek haat le ta Bajdaina".. ra bajcha bhane tyo "jhaapaad" huncha ya afno "Peet". :) -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "सुरु मै नांगै आइज, कपरा सपरा लाउनु पर्दैन भन्दै हिड्ने? सुहागरातमा भने हुन्छ, त्यो कुरा। " HAHAHAHHa dada giri bro... hasaucha yaar timipani :) ------------------------------------------ "oh soldier soldier will you marry me with a musket fire and gun ....." Kun angel bata bhaneko hola :P hahaha ;) pahila musket fire and gun ta use garau, ani sochaula;) Lau ta... Tanna lekhiyo :) IndisGUise:)