"i want to have my wife even coming to my home with the clothes i have given. i dont want..........ke garne.....sabai lle kai na bhako western bhachas bhanchan. " ----> At some point you talk very liberal and cool and other tyam you talk like this. Isn;t it hypocriticle to say this?--"i want to have my wife even coming to my home with the clothes i have given"... I understand ur sentiment in sayin so, but can she not bring her own cloths? the one she likes. Perhaps some, she bought. Perhaps some her parents wud love her to wear. Either swinging to EXTREME left or EXTREME right ( in terms of women being liberal and cool and open and blah blah OR being allowed to wear the things only you GIVE) would not what i wud call a right idea of being a man with self respect, which your writing speaks volume of. ----------- What i was trying to say in this is, " Let her make her own decision. She might have her own choices. She must have thought about it 1000 tyams, what shez gonna wear and this and that. Do not impose your opinion on her. Just think from point of view as well. :).... after all , making your loved one happy, and seeing the joy on their face, is my idea of happiness. Try this, it realy works. When people you love are happy, then you wud find a true meaning of happiness. Anyetha nasochdinu holaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa:) IndisGUise:)