" i dont mean to show off but it is within me so i cant help. last time when i was talking with gals parents , i told them i dont want any dijo from you. if u give me even one sofa i will send your daughter back.......my mum was furios saying if i start to speak like that no body will give u gal. i am so pissed off................am i wrong?" YES You are. Having your principle is nice, but you don't to shout from a roof top that you are this and that. You can act on your principle without making a HUGE drama about it too. Good thing that you feel that way about DAIJO, but you do not have to be Upfront ( as u think) about it. Let your parents talk about it and make certain s/he wud convey the msg in more appropriate WAY and certainly at the RIGTH time. Life is NOT a hindi movie. Hera MM bro, maile khali suggestion matra deko.. afule bolda ke boli rako cha matra hoina, kaslai, KASARI, KUN time ma pani herna parcha, esp. since this is a begining of new RELATIONSHIP. Talk at the right time and put your words in the flow of conversation. "i want to have my wife even coming to my home with the clothes i have given. i dont want..........ke garne.....sabai lle kai na bhako western bhachas bhanchan. " ----> At some point you talk very liberal and cool and other tyam you talk like this. Isn;t it hypocriticle to say this?--"i want to have my wife even coming to my home with the clothes i have given"... I understand ur sentiment in sayin so, but can she not bring her own cloths? the one she likes. Perhaps some, she bought. Perhaps some her parents wud love her to wear. Either swinging to EXTREME left or EXTREME right ( in terms of women being liberal and cool and open and blah blah OR being allowed to wear the things only you GIVE) would not what i wud call a right idea of being a man with self respect, which your writing speaks volume of. Aba western bhaneko tyai ho. Ali ali change huncha manche.. basai sarepachi. Influence ta pari halcha ni ali ali. Feri NEpal ma chadai nai yo yesto bhayecha uu usto bhayecha bhanne chalan barsau dekhi chali ako ho :). Abt Chakka aka gotti aka makkai .. je naam liu... yo ahile dekhi hoina.. back in da days dekhi nai chayap chyapti thio. Ekad jana chinne manche ni yesko sikar bhayeko cha. Tejendra thapa bhanne timrai baneswor ko thio, chincha? And yeah... KTi le naherne ta kurai bhayena timilai MM bro. Hasilo manche lai hasera nai hercha sansaar le.. heheheh :) Afule Kti herda.. uu afu jasto bichar ma dhalkana sakne matra hoina, afu pani usko bichar haru apnauna sakcha ki sakdaina, tyasma pani dhyan puraunu. After all life is a long journey, one needs someone one can LIVE with. Its all give and take, but the difference is, we don't keep track of whoz giving more. :) I know you are intelligent. You should do good. ALl da best, IndisGUIse:) P.S: hope you don't find anything negative about it. And i hope you don't see EVERYTHING negative about nepali girls as well. :) Galchi ma gayera baas ma bhareko KAYA ek tandeu mero naam ma. Jai Nepal.