it's a bad idea.. my mil was specially very controlling and needed special treatment all the time. I felt like i was in prison. was 1 inch away from divorcing. i didn't know i was nothing when it came to her mom for her. try to avoid that in any cost my friend but you may not be able to like most of us you also sound emotionally and mentally whipped by your wife. good luck. if you have inherited property don't tell her and try to separate accounts. Also dont try to talk to mil or fil as much as you can. the more you talk they will know your weakness and will use that against you.