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Posted on 04-10-09 2:58 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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6000 miles across the seas came we. Geographically we could not
possibly any further from home. Whether you go east, or west, its 6000
miles home.

Offcourse I'm talking about the majority of us
Nepalese here in the United States of Amrika. That doesnt mean that we
miss home more than someone, say, who's in Bangalore, or in London, or
in Sydney, Berlin, Lima, Toronto, Moscow, Guanxi, Kyoto, or wherever
else in the world, but home. The nostalgia is mutually equal. Infact,
its incomparable.

And whether you've thought about it or not,
you do crave, subconciously or uncounciously, to return home to see the
kites fly high in the sky, to walk the littered streets of New Road, to
sense the feeling of being at home, wherever in Nepal that may be.
Chitwan, Nayaranghat, Kathmandu, Nepalgunj, Biratnagar, Itahari,
Kakarbhitta, Mahendranagar, Chainpur, Butwal, Bhairava, Tatopani,
Cheesopani, Dhankuta, Dharan, Birgunj, Janakpur. Wherever. Home is
where the heart is.

There may be money here. There may be sex.
But something is a-miss here. Something that we value greatly.
Something that can be found nowhere in all seven continents except in
our insignificant (to the world) little piece of land smack in the
middle of the Himalayas. Its that inexplicable feeling, that sensation,
that everyone around you feels along with you. Its not just the place,
you miss the people.

You miss the love.

And here, all
the way across the seven seas, we expect to find the same amount of
love and respect that we had once before? It's NOT going to happen. Not
anytime soon. Love is gained, and respect is earned. What love you have
gained, you've left behind thousands of kilometers away, and whatever
respect you had garnered remains there. Here is a foreign land,
definitely not hostile, but foreign nevertheless.



And
what does the future hold for us brave explorers? A hidden bounty
perhaps? A pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? A genie ready to
grant us three magical wishes?

The future is decided by the
present, which borrows ideals from the past. Like a mason looks at the
bluprint and lays out bricks so that a house can be built. We have a
lot of blueprints. Communism? Democracy? Socialism? Dictatorship?
Republic? And we also have a lot of dreams about the house we are going
to live in. Its going to be a big spacious bungalow with lawns with
automatic sprinkler systems. Big Roman architectural windows and doors
and arcs with fancy Italian staircase in the middle of the living room.
All sorts of souveniers adorn the dressers and tables. The tapestries
are made from the finest of silk and depict the greatness of our land.

But
no one is laying any bricks. Theres a BIG pile of bricks just hot out
the kiln waiting to be placed into its proper location but everyone is
busy fighting what color they want to paint their dream house.

Brick
laying offcourse is the simplest, most mundane of jobs, and its not
particularly difficult IF done by a good number of people. By YOURSELF,
building a house is IMFRICKINGPOSSIBLE. Every little thing integrates
with the next little thing and is equally important in the overall
success of the job.

But here we are, in a land far away, the
blueprints at our fingertips, the dream house in our head, but the
bricks are all the way across the oceans. What a tragedy. And the
houses that have been built by our fathers and forefathers stand in
rubbles, as if proof that there was some sort of civilization there.
Proof that once upon a time in the annals of history, children and
women and men stayed there. And the children ran around the houses
screaming and shouting for no apparent reason. They secretly hid in the
terrace to hijack their neighbor's kite's threads. They stole from the
gardens and fought with their brothers. And yet, they were happy, they
were satisfied.

What became of these children, god knows, but what is becoming of the houses that these children lived in, is apparent.

From princes to vagabonds, from citizens to refoogees (sajha doesnt allow the word f ug). Is that the destiny of our people?

For
how long will we pointlessly fight and argue amongst ourselves to prove
who is right and who is wrong while our lack of attention to matters
that matter makes things worse day by day? You've seen it yourself.
Here in Sajha, or anywhere else where you put two Nepalese together and
watch them fight to the death about whether Buddha was born in India or
not. And the sad part is, both of them are on the same side, Buddha was
infact born in modern day Nepal, but they have their own different ways
for arguing about the same point.

Instead of fighting, can you
imagine what would happen if a positive outlook was taken, if
handshakes took place and efforts were joint? I'm pretty sure you've
all heard about 2 heads being better than one. Well, what about a
couple of hundred thousands of heads? We spend more time and energy
fighting amongst ourselves than fighting the enemy. Even the Indians
are laughing by now.

So what CAN we do? We can start by
respecting each other. Appreciating what someone does. Sounds like a
social reform doesnt it? It all begins with YOU. Without YOU there is
no WE. So if YOU are strong, WE are strong, if YOU respect others, WE
as a whole respect and care for and protect each other.

But that
my friends, is a very fine balance that even the utopian cultures that
we read about in books, have found hard to acheive.

I just
don't want to see my country and identity and all that is out there
6000 miles across the sea, dissappear. The time to change is now. 2
more years down the same path and we may fall off a cliff.

Let us find the courage and will to persevere and fight united through this storm.

Always remember, united we stand.




 
Posted on 04-10-09 3:51 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Very true. Count me in from today and starting from Sajha.


Lets not spend our energy in fighting with each other. Lets invest in something worthwhile, whether it be for ourselves, our country, our society, or someone else, but something positive.


Lets throw in some ideas for the action plan too, feasible and positive ones only please!! Lets keep this constructive.


Kudos to you Dekchi!!


 
Posted on 04-10-09 4:45 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Deckchi Driver I truly agree with you. United we Stand.. Let Us not fight and do what we can do bcoz we have seen our people fighting from several years...
No more blood Sheds only love and respect and some creative and innovative ideas to Build up our Country..
NADUS.. Peace
 
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Dechidriver......cool stuff......man i did kno u were such a genius man.....dude....hatts off...
 
Posted on 04-10-09 8:53 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Bravo! I really appreciate what u said/wrote!

 
Posted on 04-10-09 9:37 AM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Double D's,

Very well said! At this point, unity is the key to bringing about the much needed change in Nepal. Yes, there is a strong sense of unity when we're up against people from a different nationality, but that's not good enough! We, as fellow Nepali brothers and sisters, need to understand the importance of team work and how valuable it is in coming up with a well-polished plan to steer Nepal in the right direction.

Now I know it's easier said than done when it comes to "contributing" from overseas. But contribution does not necessarily entail money. Contributing ideas is just as important. And hey, if we're unable to add value, we should show appreciation for people who have contributed significantly in making Nepal better, however small their efforts may be. We should also support innovative thinkers and people who are actively committed in improving present-day conditions in Nepal.

And last but not least, let us for once focus on what we can do instead of dwelling on what we've done wrong! Learning from mistakes is important, but I think we've done enough of that already. It is time for us to change the country by thinking forward!

Thanks for this thread, DD.

 
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Deckchi makhaaa.....aja chai mero sabai le prasamsa gare hai!!!!! Casino gayera ek roulete try hanne ho ki DRIver dai!!!!
 
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I miss badam and suntala in winter gham. What do you miss? 
 
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I find it truly pointless when wherever you go in the States (or elsewhere maybe), there are always Nepalese fighting. Whether it be "malai kina heris moozzee" type of ridiculous stereotyped cock fight or your day to day neighborly squarrells, OR whether it be an online flameware (like the ones in Sajha about Buddha, Indians, Cute Chicks, SajhaKoHero :P), its still on, 24/7.

My father ALWAYS told me "ris bhanya kura, jahile paitala muni rakh hai babu". And now I realize why he said so; anger makes you feel righteous, even if you're in the wrong. Anger seduces your logic/thought processes to make you feel that whatever you're doing is absolute. No further judgement is required when you're angry. Its a do, or die, situation.

Which is why its dangerous. And the emotion of anger, we Nepalese, have been overly blessed with. Courage and loyalty is in our blood. Now if we could just attune ourselves to the right cause and use our sacrifices towards that which will benefit all.

But the biggest pitfall of our complexity is our skepticism. "Eh tyo phalana ko chora le ke nai garla ni?" "Taile plane udaunchas? na hasa na yaar.." "Yo mula govt. ma jo ayo ni kei hune wala chaina, sab ustai huun" " bahula kukur le katya cha ki k ho malai?" "Yo ta dhoti geet po ho!" .. and so on.

This is the exact reason why our country is not going ahead. When someone tries to do something, he/she sees no support, and might keep trying for a couple more years/months, after which getting tired and leaving for good.

And the solution, my friends, is not as difficult as one might ascertain. It is within grasp. You need to change your outlook a liiiitle bit, take the world as it is and accept it. Look at all other successful countries in the world, they might have their pride, but they also acknowledge that they are not the only ones in the world. Whereas we, LOL, we think we can beat up any damn country there is. We have the competetive spirit, but right now no competetion except certain doom.
 
Anyhow I don't want to blabble too much about all this :P Thanks for your comments and time. I hope to see a lot less fighting and a lot more friendliness here in Sajha. After all, charity begins at home :)

@kanchi, @sukulgunda, @amplified, @perfectionist:  Thanks a lot.

@8848m: Lol. Maybe I should try a few hands eh?

@The_Fixxer: Fixxy! " let us for once focus on what we can do instead of dwelling on what we've done wrong! Learning
from mistakes is important, but I think we've done enough of that
already. It is time for us to change the country by thinking forward!"
I don't need to say anything further.

@shaq: That was the right song, at the right time and place. Kudos my friend!

@meera: Bhokate ameelo, out in the sun, with a bunch of family and friends. :(

 
Posted on 04-10-09 12:57 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Very well written dekchidriver. Sarai mitho article....ramailo lagyo. You are absolutely right " It all begins with YOU. Without YOU there is no WE".
 
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Ok now that we've talked about what a great idea DD has put forward, lets talk about what we can really do. I know its not easy to contribute from outside nepal or even inside nepal without the right resources, kowledge, and support system. But so is life rite??? I mean i just got layed off after studying hard for 8 years and spending almost $100,000??? That wasnt easy either....so my point, NOTHING worthwhile is easy to accomplish, so lets not get discouraged by the obstacles and put forth some ideas to DO something.


A while back, i read a article somewhere about how Nepali workforce (specially women) were being victimized in different ways by thier foreign emplyers in the Gulf countries etc. The article also talked about how these unskilled labor pool of nepal had no idea what they were getting into and lacked basic understanding of what to thier rights were, what to expect in the foreign land, where to get help etc.


This inspired me to do a little research on finding the factual data about the number of people working in foreign land, the type of employment activities they were involved in etc. I tried to contact the Ministry of Stats (tathyanka bivag... ???) in nepal, emailed someofficials etc and got NOwhere.


I was thinking along the lines of maybe starting some kind of awareness program and go from there maybe. On my last trip to nepal, i saw some women who were leaving for foreign employment from nepal and they barely had any idea about what they were getting into, or maybe they were discouraged by their "agents" to talk about it with a complete strangers.


Anyways, just my ideas...i m sure you all must have at one point thought of something like this, lets share. Maybe someday, i will be able to gather enough support and resources to really so something about such issues that i feel strongly about and maybe able to help our country directly or indirectly in the long run.


 
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Is Nepal only 6000 miles away from US? How do you measure?
 
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Last I checked, the distance was 7500 miles (approx.) but things change in this fast-paced world so you never know. :p
Nice article although most of the things said are cliched if I may say so...
Bujhna ta dheraile bujhekai chhan yi kuraharu, tara bujh pachaayera naterne ko kehi ausadhi hola jasto lagdaina malai (There goes, another skeptic for you ;)
 
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In other words - timile bhanna ta bhaneu Dekchi bhai, tara ke chahin naya bhaneu ra yar?
 
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pret atma dai/didi,

I was feeling like letting out a rant, and this article served its purpose.

6000 or 7500, I meant we are on the other side of the planet :) Well, now i know how far exactly

Plus im sick of these hate threads mushrooming in Sajha so wanted to change the topic :) You gotta have a lil variety in life dont ya?


Last edited: 13-Apr-09 09:25 AM

 
Posted on 04-13-09 4:06 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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Dekchi, you sound like a home-deprived college kid passing flyers about rebuilding Nepal.  Please save the effort, for your words will pass through as neutrinos  from one ear to the other to most of these disgusting sajhaists who can't wait until NAS posts the new hottie from facebook and hi5.

Like pret_aatma said, there is nothing new in what you are saying. We know it has to start with each person. Call me pessimistic but the future of Nepal looks bleaker than ever. Back in the days when you were frolicking in kindergarten, our country was poor but we still had respect for one another.
These days we have lost that respect.  Until we learn to  respect, not tolerate, our own countrymen, the future is even more grim.

P.S. Do not interpret my condescending sentences as a sign of disrespect.
 


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