Seeking suggestion on what to do.
Please, this is my kind request not to comment any offensive reply.
I definitely would touch base with a lawyer soon. However, initiation on Sajha always does help
Thanks in advance
केहि बर्ष अगाडि नेपाल गएको बेला मैले बिहे गरे (strange but true it is a love marriage)। बिहे लगत्तै म usa फर्के आफ्नो काम को लागि। अैले म work visa मा छु। was in f1 when i got married.
मैले बिहे मा केही दाईजो पनि लेको थिएन। दाईजो नलिएर ठुलो काम गरी भन्न खोजेको हैन। True, so it is being included in this post.
I started hearing from family and friends about my wife being seen with other guy in a different dating spot.
To confirm i did ask her and she admitted so easily.
just within few months period after marriage म यहाँ usa ma हुँदा उसको अरु केटा सँग सम्बन्ध रहन पुगेछ। Yes! after marriage. She said it is her true and deep love for that guy and that guy indeed understands her.
उस्ले मलाई उु तेही केटा सँग जान्छु भनेर mero घर छोडेर गई। and i didn't stop her. i let her go.
(it was not easy to let the wife u love to go with someone else in such a dramatic way.
But i let her go because i want my relationship with my life partner to be bounded by love, trust, true feelings and respect, not due to any compulsion or सामाजिक बन्देज.
Besides, i have always loved her and i still do. I thought if she would be happy with that let her be happy with it.
I did what i think was right, however, this stuff took me to depression for several weeks. I was not able to think, sleep, work for several weeks. Thanks to my lead and my team who understood my situation and help me with my work situation being much supportive. ( she was Indian and a woman and I believe that's called humanity)
तर त्यो केटाले mero wife lai स्विकारेन छ, के भयो तेस पछी उ मेरो घरमा मा farkina.
But she started sending series of message asking me to sponsor her to USA on dependent visa or funded her to study abroad.
Then I realized her real intention. She married me(despite I am much older than her and much ugly as according to her) because her motive was to enter USA and to get financial backup from me.
I denied to sponsor her. Neither my financial situation is that good to fund her for abroad study.
हाल ऊ आफ्नो माइता मा बस्दै आएको रहेछ। since last 1 year.
(she just lied and fooled around her parents and getting support of them.
it is said mother's love is blind.No doubt, mother always support her child, but at least being a mother, one has to be much cautious regarding child action and have to figure out the real stuff. Still no complain to my wife's mother)
उस्ले मलाई पढ्न बस्न खर्च मागेको थियो। आफ्नो कर्तव्य हो भनी मैले उस्को dad ko खातामा पैसा हलिदिन्छु भने तर तेसो भने पछी रीसाएरर चाइदैन भनिन। She wanted money in her account.
My previous employer let me go from my previous job. Luckily, I found a new job and working fine so far.
However, barambar my wife has been threatening me to drag me to the court, divorce nai nadikana dhuru dhuru ruwauchu and all.
Though it always tortured me, I was able to control myself.
Every times she send msg, i would be scared, my whole body tingles and i am not able to think at all. I know it's a complete abuse but I always have stayed quiet as once upon a time she did provide me an immense love and support and I can never deny that fact.
Few days back she again sent msg and this time it was indeed intolerable; once again.
she messaged, उसले मलाई दिवोर्के केस गर्छु, property क्लैम गर्छु . and this time she said she would terminate my visa and drag me back to NEPAL. She used all the 'F' word, khate kukur and all. She said she has reached to the lawyer regarding this and her lawyer would be sending the legal documents to me.
I tried to calm her down and convince her but of no avail. so said her
जे ठीक लाग्छ तेही गर्नु
Just would like to mention, while I am in USA, I never have any relation with any girl.
I don't drink, smoke, neither I go to strip clubs and all. People who knows me even can't predict what's going inside my heart and my life.
I just try to make everyone smile though someone is making me cry all the time.
Again mentioning this as it is the fact.
I understand woman has more priority as per Nepal law.
Now Few questions to the one who can provide me relevant information.
- उस्ले मलाई केस गरी मेरो visa cancel गराइ नेपाल फर्किन वाध्य गराउछु भनी msg पठाको छ।
kt ले चाहेको खण्द मा के उस्ले तेसो गर्न सक्छ ra According to Nepal Law? I am on work visa
- उस्ले property claim केस जिते ko खन्दमा या हारेको खन्दमा उस्ले कती property paucha ?
- के मेरो बाउ ko सम्पत्ति मा उस्ले claim garna सक्छ? (i am never in favor of taking my father's will. I believe in being independent and glad I am.)
- if she cases me which she might be planning, के मैले मेरो usa मा भाको आफ्नो चल् अचल सम्पत्ति सबै को बिबरण दिनु पर्छ। म सँग भको सम्पत्ति भन्दा धेरै सम्पत्ति मागेको खन्दमा मैले के गर्नु parca.
- एदी मैले mero अलि अलि भाको money मेरो मदर को name मा राखे भने के तेस्मा उन्ले हक दबी गर्न सक्छ ?
- ke ma nepal nai janu parcha divorce ko lagi or Is it possible to get it done from USA?
---- can i sue my wife for all these mental harassment and abuse as according to Nepal's law.
I have all the abusive msg, email she has sent, her admit of her affair. everything.
I just would like to mention,
I would for sure reach to lawyer regarding this. It is just an initiative on sajha in the expectation of getting some appropriate advise. If anyone can suggest good advise and divorce lawyer, that would be great.
My question on this thread and for the topic for suing my wife for mental abuse is not to trouble my wife though she troubled/troubles me a lot. At one point of a time, i was suicidal for a while because of her deeds.
My kind request
please don't criticize and assume or use any thing bad word for her.
I agree she did wrong but still don't want bad words for her.
i still love her. But I couldn't be with her because i have some principle and dignity in life.
and i believe no husband can be with the wife whom he loved, trusted, respected had left him for some other guy being in relationship with that other guy.
No matter she wins the case or loose I would still provide her the part of my asset i earned working so hard in usa for her education, food and accommodation. I just want to be sure she doesn't misuse the money she gets,
किनकि आफुले दुख गरि कमाको पैसाको/सम्पतिको माया आफुलाई जति अरुलाई कहिले हुदैन.
so she can spent/waste the money in a wrong way which she would get after divorce.
and i want my wife to be independent achieving a good education so that in future no matter wherever she will be, whoever she will be with she can survive happily and can have prosperous life.
Rahyo sawal mero. Sajha ko sathi haru bhaee halnu hunca ni to smile and remain calm.
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