I tell you honestly, attitude of Nepalese are woest than Indians. This is real. Nepalese are aggrasive and jhagdalu. This is fact. Nepalese steal money than Indians from stores. Nepalese tend to drink and fight. Believe it or not, this is what I have experienced in USA. Dude, your situation may be exceptional.

Dhoti_prasad · Oct 2, 2018 8:46 PM

@ghorle: seen that, even been there before. Two choices - 1. try talking to him, try being friendly, ask if he has any problems with you, 2. ignore him, deal with him only if/when you have to. jealous and arrogant lowlifes like him are not worth your time. and this is what I do most of the time, unless it's someone I care about want , in which case i go no. 1

bakwaas_kura · Oct 2, 2018 10:43 PM

try to treat him with a lunch ! desi people talk in favor when they get their bellies filled. Last edited: 02-Oct-18 11:14 PM

househunter · Oct 2, 2018 11:14 PM

U can complaint to HR. Since gc takes long for Indians , u can mess him up. If u have gc u can change company , no need to stay with assholes .

ajoshinp · Oct 3, 2018 8:37 AM

Just ignore him. You are an expert and senior. You should not be intimidated by his behavior. Make other friends at work. Honestly, that is just Indian, ass kissing by nature(fact). If they get change they will sell you and talk negative of you to get ahead of you. It runs in their blood (100%). I have seen they will even take credit for your work. Be careful though, do not say things directly at him as he may just want that to use against you. Indians are smart they wont hesitate to take advantage of others situation. Pays less in cash at work to cheat the government and make you do all the work. They sell stale food.This is common everywhere.

itahariko · Oct 3, 2018 9:06 AM

I also used to have similar problem with a female indian coworker. Now she is gone, I was like this is great. She would be nice to everyone else but me. She would only be nice to me if she needs to ask me something. I don't know if she was jealous because other girls were nice to me or she thinks she was too good looking and I need to praise her. Last edited: 03-Oct-18 09:42 AM

sinope · Oct 3, 2018 9:16 AM

My experience with my Indian colleagues working in a international Org. 1. 90% of Indians are ass lickers, They bend over to Khairas and challenge to Nepalis. 2. Most of the Indians think Nepali as "Bahadurs" only, When they find they have to work under Nepalis, they find it very difficult. 3. Almost all Indians invite kahaires for dinner at their home, and believe me, Khaires love free food and drink 4. If your boss is intelligent he will understand this and and you dont have to worry, if he is not then prepare yourself. My boss was intelligent, he used to say that dude is "brown nose" to Indian guy. 5,I very rarely invited Khaires for dinner (only to very close friends) 6. There always ppl who love brown nosing, including khaires, you have to know who is who in your office. 7. Very few Indians are good, I had chance to work with few smart Indians. Now solutions, some of these may be useful to you 1. In work place always be polite and talk with smiling face, always smile when you say good morning etc. 2. Be sincere to your work, give 100% effort, if there is a problem regarding work always talk with your boss with probable solutions. 3. Never afraid of that Indian dude, when you are talking with him, talk friendly but don't give him inner clues (Indians will exploit it) 4.if you see his weakness note it down. It might help you one day, but don't use that often. 5. While talking with others don't talk bad about him. But if his "bad thing" is known to every one even then say, "I thought he was a smart guy, I am surprise by his action/comment/behavior etc" which ever is applicable. 6. Most of your fear is psychological, to my surprised many Nepalis think that Indians are superior to them, it is not true. 7. why Nepalis think Indian are superior to them, a) we watch bollywood film and think how great bollywood movies are, this is not true, 99% of bollywood movies are bull crap, not worth watching. b) We listen to bollywood music/Punjabi music and dance in their music, 99% Bollywood musics are stolen and modified, stop dancing in bollywood music,they are all bull crap c) most of us think that Indians are very intelligent, they are smart, that is not true, if you compare percentage wise Nepalis are in far better position than Indian. per capita wise for every Nepalis working in your office there must be 30 Indians working. I bet it is not the situation in your office. .8. You are superior to that Indian, accept it, Your fear will go away. 9. If you are intelligent enough, you don't have to worry about.

_____ · Oct 3, 2018 10:24 AM

I know how it feels. But be nice for now and wait for the right time to show his place. You mentioned you worked hard and you know what you are doing. So wait. If 99 percent knows you are good and have good work ethics, then 1 percent dont matter. If anything comes up or not happy, give your immediate lead a small heads up how you are feeling in general so that he/she is aware of the situation and start noticing the indian guys attitude towards you. Just try to be nice to indian guy as well from your side. Karma is a bit**, it will hit him back. So have patience, and do what you are doing at your best.

guitarcenter · Oct 3, 2018 10:29 AM

First of all, I think you are more insecure than he is. And second, don't try to be nice. Dont listen to the loser comment to be nice and blah blah blah...Respect who deserve and treat like a piece of shit who disrespect you. period.

terodai · Oct 3, 2018 11:03 AM

Had similar issue with Nepali. I don't think that dhoti is different just because of nationality. TLDR, Every situation is different, but if possible, just ignore that guy and do not interact as far as possible. However, do note his weak points, issues potentially relevant for disciplinary action, poor communication, poor performance etc. You may need those details in a situation when HR needs to be called. A childhood friend of mine moved to a city I was living in the past. I introduced her to a didi who happened to be working in a different department in the same office at same level my friend was hired. Due to similar duties, they were supposed to communicate regularly. However, the 'didi' started pinging my friend's manager asking the manager for certain reports which obviously my friend generates. The manager reminded 'didi' multiple times to send requests directly to my friend, but it has been over a year and they could not get along. My friend later said that although didi was friendly at first, didi rarely talks in Nepali even during lunch or free time. I felt sorry because I was not aware about 'didi's that avatar. Probably it is more a girl stuff, but my friend thinks it is because didi is from a very elite and rich family in Kathmandu, with over 10 yrs experience while I and my friend are from Chitwan and much younger. I think it felt bad because didi was Nepali, and in your case that guy is a dhoti. If it was a random khaire, you would not care that much. Getting along with everyone at work is not only difficult but also a waste of time.

lamjung · Oct 3, 2018 11:58 AM

ब्रो le ni हसौचा, धोति संग नि के को बाल, सीधै भन्दे भै हाल्यो नि ,

Nepalikochoro12345 · Oct 3, 2018 12:01 PM

Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences/ inputs. I really appreciate! I should start doing tit-for-tat. I from today start to completely ignore him. I did quite a bit of introspection to assess if I had any problem. I did not see any apparent one. He uses two completely different tones to talk to juniors and seniors and resorts to mute mode with me :). We work on different projects but in the same department. Recently, my job responsibilities changed and I work more independently and mentor others. He also mentors others. Both of us are two of the best workers there. I do not have any issue with him and do not have any insecurity/ inferiority issue. I do not take Indians to be superior or inferior to a Nepali or any other race/ nationality for that matter. It is just a strange feeling seeing him behave that way. I had many good Indian friends in school and did not have any problem. May be he is little afraid of the fact that I am getting a little share of spotlight he once fully had. I mostly do not work to be in the spotlight. He is taking me for a competitor, which I am not. Thanks to you folks one more time. Last edited: 03-Oct-18 12:29 PM Last edited: 03-Oct-18 12:31 PM

GHORLEKABO · Oct 3, 2018 12:29 PM

Based on my experience, Indians are naturally more competitive then most neplease. Luckily I haven’t have to work with other Nepali yet, but most time I find Indians more competitive then Nepalese. They intend to achieve what they want by hook or cook. Looks like he sees you as his direct competitor for any future potential growth. There is no preskription here and reaching out to HR, unless he does something really wacky, would just look bad on you. You have to treat him as competition, if you want neck to neck competition with him. If you want to let him move ahead and stay laid back then its fairly easy to slow down a bit , let him take a lead and follow him. I am sure he will start treating you well as soon as he realize you are not in same league as he. Last edited: 03-Oct-18 08:16 PM

meraj · Oct 3, 2018 8:14 PM

Be smart and make Nepalese proud. I kick their ass lots of time. I just ignored them. I mentored and helped Alots of Indian. They are smart but not really great. I got Nepalese are more smart if they got better opportunities. Nepalese don’t bow their head to anybody. I’m the boss against my boss. Be intelligent and don’t make you suppressed. Sale your intelligent. Don’t care anything.

Haldar · Oct 4, 2018 12:48 AM

हैन हो साथी ती निम्न चरित्रका मीत्र कुन मात्री भाषा बोल्दा रैछन?

phone · Oct 5, 2018 8:33 AM

You will be finding negativity every step of your career. If his negative character is influencing your work life balance then he is successful in doing that and he has successfully influenced you to become like him. Whenever I see such kind of behaviour and people I keep reminding myself that I surely don't want to be that person and treat him nicely and not as he treats me. If you keep treating him nicely, no matter how many times he shows rudeness he will be compelled to bow down ultimately. In summary, Don't let other to change your true character. Just be who you are and let fate decide because it never goes wrong.

sajhamitra · Oct 5, 2018 1:23 PM

Guys, if you ever want to piss off or aggravate an Indian, send him or her an anonymous text or email with the following: "Indians smell like chicken achari roganjosh paan masala tandoori tikka pig rectum boti kabab makhni curry with a hint of goat fart and incense made of cow dung." Trust me, this will really push their buttons. Lolzz Last edited: 05-Oct-18 02:35 PM Last edited: 05-Oct-18 02:36 PM

samitabaral · Oct 5, 2018 2:27 PM

I had similar experience, one a$$hole was super friendly and kissing every khairey's a$$ but would act very different towards me as if he didn't wanted to talk. I ignored him few months after that one nepali guy joined my team. I never talked to him first after that, if I needed info then only I would talk to him. Also, work wise he would bot get me any documents, so I would request couple time by emailing him personally and wait few days in between. If he didn't answer then I would email again saying that because of your no response blah blah is gettting delayed and cc his manager. I was really happy when he left the company.

goddamn · Oct 5, 2018 5:35 PM

नेपाल भए नि अमेरिका भए नि इन्डियन को आड नलागी उपाय छैन है साथी हो साला धोति भन्यो गाली गर्यो. यति ठुलो दुनिया छ चित्त बुज्दैन भने आफुलाई फिट हुने टिम मा काम गरे भैगो नि कुरा ठुला खुट्टा लुला .... मेरो व्यक्तिगत विचार ...

gaulejetho · Oct 5, 2018 5:59 PM

I have a very very deep hatred for Indians. Just like they portray us as a Gate keeper in their movies, we also need to portray them as someone who smells like chicken masala roganjosh curry with a hint of goat fart in our movies and that smell won't go away despite showering for 100 times a day.

samitabaral · Oct 5, 2018 6:49 PM

@samitabaral यो samitabaral भन्ने राम प्रयोग गर्ने रण्डी / you actually have a deep seated hatred for yourself तेरो बाउ ले तेरो चाक् चिकेर फुसी ख्त्याएको हैन ? अनि तँलाई तेरो बाउ ले चिकेर नपुगेर तेसका साथी हरु लाइ समेत पैसा लिएर तेरो चाक् चिकाएको हैन ? अनि सहस्त्र सैकड़ौं को लाडो चुसेर gallon का gallon फुसी निलेर यहा आएर keyboard पछाडी लुकेर चुरीफुरी देखाउछस माचिकने / तेरो बाउ ले तँलाई चिकेर गलाएको ले बाहिर निस्केर केहि भन्न सक्दैनस तँ रण्डी अनि यहाँ आएर fake नाम प्रयोग गरेर के के न चलाख कमेन्ट हाने भन्ने छ तँलाई जा अझै चाक् चिका र फुसी निल माचिकने

stanley · Oct 9, 2018 11:23 AM

@stanley: I can see your curry smelling Indian twat ego is pretty hurt because I made you realize that you are an idiot. LOL!

samitabaral · Oct 9, 2018 11:38 AM

@samitabaral माचिकने मुर्ख रण्डी / इन्डियन ले एक महिना नाकाबन्दी लगायो भने तेरो घर मा भात पाक्दैन माचिकने रण्डी / curry smelling भनेर के के न तँ चाही युरोपियन होस् कि के होस् माचिकने ? तँ माचिकने चाहिँ के खान्छस ? french cuisine खान्छस माचिकने ? illegally यहाँ बसेर त्यही इन्डियन को gas station र रेस्टुरा मा काम गरेर इन्डियन को लाडो चुसेर यहाँ आइ फुर्ति गर्छस माचिकने रण्डी Last edited: 09-Oct-18 11:44 AM

stanley · Oct 9, 2018 11:44 AM

What if Nepal is a state of India? Many Indians think Nepal is part of India. They have reasons to say that. We beg from them and at he same time we back bite them. आफ्नो खुटा मा नि उभिन नसक्ने, अर्काको सहयोग पनि लिने अनि... उही हो नेपाली को बानी. कसैले भन्थ्यो, कृषि प्रधान देश मा मल छैन र बन्दैन - भारत बाटै ल्याउनु पर्छ जलश्रोत को अपार भण्डार मा जल छैन, जल बिद्यूत छैन भारत बाटै ल्याउनु पर्छ भात धरै खानु पर्ने देश मा चामल विदेश बाट ल्याउनु पर्छ. कति छ कति एस्तो कुरा हरु त.....

hussain_khan · Oct 9, 2018 11:48 AM

@Hussain_Khan: yes we get help from India. No denying on that. So does India gets help from other countries. But that does not mean one has right to interfere in sovereign business. If you see recent incidents with border where Indians have taken over Nepal's land by force. We are not back biting we will tell in their face if required. We normally don't go looking for trouble when we have no reason for it. But they do because they think they are superior. Again this is government issues and one or two bad potatoes superiority feelings. Cant say it to all.  Last edited: 09-Oct-18 01:00 PM

itahariko · Oct 9, 2018 12:48 PM

@stanley & Hussain: India ko dalali garne napunsak haru. Thukka!

samitabaral · Oct 9, 2018 12:54 PM

@samitabaral तेरी माचिकने रण्डी / इन्डियन को चाकडी गरेर इन्डियन को लाडो चुसेर बस्छ्स अनि यहाँ आएर पोज देखौछस् / तलाई इन्डियन ले चाक् चिकेको जस्तो छ / माचिकने / rogan josh, curry smelling रे ? तेरो बाउ ले तँलाई गुन्द्रुक र सिन्की गनाउने लाडो चुसौंदा चाही च्वाप च्याप चुसिस ? डुंग डुन्गती गनाउने तेरो बाउ को फुसी निलिस ? के के न तँ माचिकने चाही italian food ki european cuisine खाने गरेको छस रण्डी? माचिकने एउटा डेरा मा सात जना सुतेर illegally बसेर घण्टा को दस डलर कमाएर त्यो पनि इन्डियन को चाक चिकाइ खाएर ...अनि यहाँ आएर कम्युटर पछाडी लुकेर आफु लाई के के न sophisticated देखाउन खोज्छस् ?

stanley · Oct 9, 2018 1:47 PM

We buy stuff from India as America buys stuff from China. It's solely specilization based trade. Why do some Nepalis feel inferior to Indians just because they buy stuff from India. In 2015 india had to break tje illegal ban to Nepal because their products were rotting in borders. Americans neber feel tjey are inferiors to chinese just because they buy things from china. Learn good things fro. Your adopted country. Grow a pair and si.e self respect my gorkheys brothers Last edited: 09-Oct-18 07:00 PM

ehho2 · Oct 9, 2018 5:36 PM

ehho2: You are missing the point, kid. This is about respect. I am not sure if you have ever watched those curry smelling indian movies but FYI, in a lot of them, they portray Nepalese people as Bahadur GATEKEEPER! Now, don't tell me your punk ass is okay with that.

samitabaral · Oct 9, 2018 8:28 PM

Vitch look again what I have written .punk ass I am against indian mistreatment, not for it. I was telling fellow Nepalis that we should not feel inferior because we get stuff from India cuz we pay for them and we don't receive them as charity. I was trying to build our self respect and I hate it when they think we are gatekeepers.

ehho2 · Oct 9, 2018 10:07 PM

I agree with most if the points from @____ . That's quite a name, while I disagree with some of his/her points. I think personality and attitude is a very personal trait, tesaile I try to see each person on a case basis. Mero ramro indian sathi ni cha ani attitude dekhaune nepali sanga pani vet vako cha. Yo nation based garib mentality haraunu paryo. We say Indian this and that, but Indian ma dherai ethnicity ani sub ethnicity cha. It really doesn't matter who is what color. Euta s-indian ramro sathi cha mero, because he understands and is logical, hard working . Tara euta nepali thiyo ko sanga ali thak thuk paryo - you know why, because tyo nepali was a bully. Jahile ni hochaune, j garda pani yo tyo vanne ani mache ko agadi badar banaune. It was just building in me, and I just had to stand up and I did it very strongly. He just fucking lost the day I picked up fight with him (not physical but verbal) and i found many people in my support, because that guy was an asshole. So, take your time to analyze the situation, do not act erratically. If you work hard and are genuine and are surrounded by hard working and genuine people around you they will realize, your boss will realize. If you need to stand up take some time; if talking with that person helps go for it l, but here is a suggestion - If that person got too much attitude and has a bullying me mentality talking won't help. If you think there is something you can do something (communicating, passive or aggressive approach) to improve your situation, go for it; think throughly. If you think negativity is inevitable, just move on from that work place. Sometime fighting helps sometimes it makes it worse, sometime avoidance and ignorance are better. Take your time before you take any action. Doesn't matter what country, color, ethnicity you are, we all are humans. I have seen bootlickers, morons and smart people in every color, ethnicity, even in degree earning people. If a person hasn't been through really difficult situation in life to learn a lesson, he/she isn't going to be humble. There is much more for that person to learn. If a person has always seen and learned to cheat and thinks that's the way to success, that person isn't going to be humble. If a person hasn't had enough love in life, he/she isn't going to be humble. Learn a person, and you cannot see through somebody over a bottle of beer. Take a approach you think might help, else move on. If you cannot win the situation over it will affect you. Let us know what you ended up doing. Just for a lesson.

everestial007 · Oct 9, 2018 10:14 PM

Life and Business are like war. Work place is a battle field, fight it to your last breathe if you are right. There could be subconcious mental phobia at play. Fuck that subconcious mental phobia that could having implanted some way as you grew up that he is some indian and you should be different or special to the guy. Do what is right and rational my friend. Kick the stupidity out of the guy if you have to but respect the good ideas based on circumstance. Don't stay silent . Have the leadership and winners attitude. You cannot make everyone happy. All the best.

Think_Different · Dec 18, 2018 3:03 PM

i might be advising this really late but still.. keep an eye on him and find out if actually knows stuff. there are numerous indians with fake resume and 10+ years experiences in US. He could be one of them. Then, all you need to do is make him explain critical things in front of everyone.

andyshrestha · Apr 11, 2019 9:08 PM

I had a similar experience when I started working than asked the person why he was acting like Bihari in the land of Stephen curry , I started calling him Bihari directly which he could not report to corporate as Bihari meant nothing , I gave him a bloody Bihari time until he quit , they are all Biharis tell them they suck , sad for yr situation , Ps we all started calling him Bihari sooner or later than he quit , never seen again

ruby1991 · Apr 11, 2019 11:09 PM

@Ruby1991, good thing Bihari didn't give you good time or else you would have sucking him entire life.

itahariko · Apr 11, 2019 11:32 PM

I am currently feeling the same, left good job for better compensation. Now I am regretted working with all Indians. They make small group, talk their local language in the office. Do not know what to do.

damar · Apr 12, 2019 7:31 AM

I think it boils down to your own attitude first. If you have an attitude of a mouse then everyone is going to treat you like one.

lothar · Apr 12, 2019 10:32 AM

I had a similar issue at my workplace. I used to have hard time working with some of the Indians. But most of them know that I'm a full-time employee and U.S Army Veteran so they never try to mess with me. And I hang out mostly with whites and Asian at my workplace. Always have that attitude that you are better than Indians. And actually, south Indians and Punjabis are friendlier than northerners.

200times · Apr 12, 2019 12:51 PM

@200Times Those white guys think you are Indian. Did you realize that ?

dhoti_prasad · Apr 12, 2019 1:19 PM

My updates: We have had a "peace" pact. He got a promotion recently and is in a position similar to mine. He definitely had insecurities because of me. I got more independent role; I pick my own projects and mostly the difficult ones. And I will get a promotion from mid year. GC is already under process. He does not have strong subject matter knowledge. I exposed him. Now he asks me questions whenever he has. I answer those with a smile in my face. Feels good to see a part of his self dying inside. Like many suggested, I ignored him. He came back to me making conversations whenever he could. BTW, @gaulejetho, I wanted to respond to your comment a long ago but let it go. Buddy, not all people work for Indians. Nor do they want to, for that matter. Probably you do. Even if you do, you don't have to apotheosize them. I know how Indians treat their subordinates. People like you that prostrate to Indians are the reason these people think that they are master of us Nepalese . Just treat them as your employer, not master. Huge difference. I have, btw, very firm legs, well planted to ground. Great weekend!! I had a Bengali friend back in the school. He said, it took him 2 hours of cycle ride after getting off of a bus to get his home. Still, he asked me one day, "Hey, do you people have a newspaper in Nepal? airport?" Like, we have not seen Bengal. Superiority complex is badly ingrained in their soul. They think they come from some first world country and Nepal is a "poor" country for them. Bollywood injected fake grandiosity. They come hurling down to the ground, just show them their real face. Last edited: 12-Apr-19 06:21 PM

GHORLEKABO · Apr 12, 2019 6:12 PM

I have a hilarious experience regarding this. Encountered a similar ass licking, belittling south Indian with superiority complex. He used to treat me as if i don’t know anything. He used to kiss my boss ass and talk to me in condesending tone. The job that our boss would assign, he would almost threaten me and tell me that any email i send regarding the job, i must send to him first because his reputation is at stake. Days went by and his arrogance was growing. I was beginning to feel dread even to going to work because of him. There was one project which i was assigned independently by luck and i was working hard on it. Our client had a severe production impacting issue which i solved. The next day, beknownst to me , my manager, all managers from other department came in our office. I was thinking, shit, something broke bad. They called my name, i was thinking holy shit, i gotta pack up my shit. Then surprisingly they announced they were there to give me letter of accomplishment and everyone applauded. The look i saw in that indian coworker, oh man, i kinda felt bad for that checkmate. After that he had some respect for me and we started going to bars once in a while. He opened up about his difficulty with getting a girl to date. Then i lined him for killshot and one day took my beautiful gf to the bar and introduced with him. The look on that subramanyum’s face, i will forever cherish.

maharjan123 · Apr 13, 2019 8:39 AM

I work with a lot of Indians but most of them started with fake ass resume , I came with a strong related academic field and had much more knowledge than them. Some were working senior than me when I joined but after few weeks of joining the company , our Associate Director made me the lead and they all started working under me ! Some of them working remotely and when i did meetings for the project , they all thought I was born here cuz I spoke a bit better English than them ! Then when I told them the reality they were all like “oh ..”.. Later on they all started respecting me cuz I could solve the complex problems , even an Indian senior manager was very friendly to me cuz I was one of the best in the team ! Be strong at your job, don’t think you’re inferior to any Indian guy, you’ll be okay . South Indians are usually friendly ... we used to go for lunch together , i never had any issues , I left that company and some Indians still call me and even come to my social event and invite me . They actually feel a bit inferior to me ... I kind of get that feeling but I’m an easy person , I get along with them quite well ....

guy_tensed · Apr 13, 2019 5:00 PM

One more thing I wanted to add..I became sick for few days one time and some of my Nepali friends never bother to visit me but the Indian manger and other Indian colleagues came to my house to know how I was doing , they even brought some Indian herbal medicine ! Not all Indians are bad.

guy_tensed · Apr 13, 2019 5:03 PM

Yep not everyone is bad. If someone thinks everyone one is bad because of one or two bad experiences then you may be very well to deserve that.

itahariko · Apr 13, 2019 5:21 PM