On the topic:
Save the lost, at any cost!
By:
DilShobha Shrestha,
In Nepal
Date: Sunday, November 25, 2012
Time: 11 AM Eastern Time
Venue: Conference Call
Please do not miss out this important interactive session with Dil Shobha Shrestha (Aama). Following this talk, we will take questions.
You can also e-mail your questions prior to the talk session to NASeA Public Relations Committee Chairperson, Dr. Ram C. Baral, at dr.ram.baral@gmail.com.
Dil Shobha Shrestha the Nepalese Mother Teresa, has been transforming lives of many for years.
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and
News: Comforting The Elderly
Fri Jun 17, 2011 | by Umang Parajuli
Photos : ECS Media
If they do not have any source of income (like pension, old age allowances) give them some money on a regular basis, so that they can spend for their day-to-day small needs. Even if the allowance is small, it doesn’t matter because it will mean a lot to them and make them feel more independent.
As we know, each of us has to pass through this age someday, sooner or later, why should we not start the practice of making this phase of life beautiful for everyone? If we start it from now, our children will learn from us. Taking care of your elderly today is preparing a safe elderly passage for yourself. It is actually a cycle of life – ‘you get as good as you give.’
Six must do’s
- Treat your elderly with respect and dignity. If he/she is capable, allow them to make decisions about their life. Be diplomatic while talking to them. Don’t hurt them with your words. Do not impose things/rules on them.
- Invest in their health. Be proactive, taking them for regular medical exams. Never wait for them to ask you. Book periodic appointments in advance with the doctor for a whole year.
- If they do not have any source of income (like pension, old age allowances) give them some money on a regular basis, so that they can spend for their day to day small needs. Even if the allowance is small, it doesn’t matter because it will mean a lot to them and make them feel more independent.
- If they are not staying with you, call or visit them on a regular basis. Do not forget to wish them on their birthdays and anniversaries. If possible, organize family gatherings and present them on these occasions.
- Always encourage them, praise them for their desire to live and make them feel needed and that they are still an invaluable part of your life.
- Never complain, or make your elderly loved ones feel what you are doing for them is a burden. Make them feel that you enjoy doing things for them.
Six should do’s
- Get your family involved with your elderly ones. Allow your children to visit with them. Keep them involved in your children’s life and education. Ask for their help and give them suitable chores in your home.
- Teach your children to behave with the elderly in a respectful and polite way. The courteous behavior of your children makes them overjoyed.
- While going out, do not leave them alone at home. If they are not capable of cooking and cleaning, hire a maid who will provide company and help them with their household chores.
- The elderly are not liabilities but assets. We can take advantage of the experience and knowledge they have earned in their lifetime (parera janeko kura). This makes them feel that they are contributing to family and society.
- Volunteer to do special things for them. Eg: take them shopping or out to dinner or request their help in gardening flowers or vegetables.
- Take your elderly loved one to visit other elderly relatives occasionally. They feel good to see and meet people of the same generation.
Six can do’s
- Listen to what they have to say. This helps you to find out their state of mind. It is said that a man becomes a child two times in his lifetime, first when he is young and second when he is old. So, treat the elderly like you treat your child; be as tolerant and forgiving of small faults.
- Keep them updated about current events. Read to them from newspapers. Let them watch their interesting shows on television. This makes them feel that they are still a part of the world.
- Discover a favorite hobby of the elderly and help them fulfill the hobby. Encourage them to cultivate a hobby if they do not have any, like cooking, painting, gardening, playing indoor games, knitting, reading, writing, etc.
- Attend holy places with them and advise them to get involved in the satsang or holy company. Arrange pilgrimage trips for them.
- Encourage the elderly to participate in social communities organized for senior citizens. This keeps their body and mind active.
- Record special moments shared with your elderly loved ones in a camera, tape recorder or just jot notes down. They might have stories of their times, along with cherished memories, which we may find very interesting.
Moderator
Ram C. Baral, Ph.D
Professor of Psychology
Benedict College and
Southern Wesleyan University
and
Chair
Public Relationships Committee
Nepalese Association in Southeast America (NASeA)
1) Senior Chair/Co-Chair: Mr. Raja Ghale (Ex-President of NASeA), GA
2) Senior Chair/Co-Chair: Dr. Dharmendra Dhakal, TN, (Ex-President of NASEA)
3) Co-Chair: Dr. Tilak Shrestha, AL
4) Co-Chair: Mr. Tara Pun
5) Co-Chair: Dr. Shankar Parajuli, SC
Members: 6) Dr. Archana Pandey, NC,
7) Dr. Bishwa Adhikari, GA/Canada,
8) George Thomas, MO,
9) Dr. Nita Thapa, SC
10) Dr. Piyush Upadhyay, SC
11) Mrs. Dina Khaniya, SC
12) Dr. Samar Paija Magar, SC
13) Mr. Satish Gupta, SC/NC
14) Mr. Manish Shakya (SCAN President)
15) Dr. Remanta K.C.,
16) Shakti Aryal, MS
17) Mr. Chester Reynolds, TN
18) Mr. Francis Harper, AR
19) Dr. Gail Triff, FL
20) Mr. Madhab Mainali, AL
21) Dr. Archana Kattel, President FNA
22) Dr. Khusi Ram Tiwari, FL
23) Member: Hari Bhandari, GA
24) Cathy Sharma, LA
25) Mr. Dipendra Lamichhane, NC
26) Nabin Pariyar, KY
