Guys do u feel bad when people ask u where u from and are u this n that. u know it irritates me, i fell like they are humiliating me. i feel so mad sometimes that i ahve to reply harshly to some people.

Ar U nuckin futs?

why would I be [Disallowed String for - bad word]ing nuts?

Back when I was living in Texas, this lady asked me, "Where are you from?"

I answered, "I'm from Nepal."

She looked puzzled and says, "Oh, OK. I came from Oklahoma to Texas not long ago. I don't know much about Texas. Which part of Texas is Nepal in?"

I tried to explain, "No, Nepal is near India. Have you heard of India?"

Her answer was, "Nope, ain't heard of that."

Not giving up hope I asked her, "What about Asia?"

At that point her face lit up a little, "Yup, yeah, I heard of that somewhere."

That was the end of my geography lesson.

My thoughts are in rhyme with Catchmeifyoucan's.

I usually dont get offended, I tell them Im from Nepal but I get very upset when they ask me isn't Nepal in INDIA? I tell them the real thing and then They say "Ohhhhh I always thought Nepal was in India". Sometimes some people even think Nepal is in Tibet which doesnt bother me as much as India.  Apart from that I normally get asked if Im from Philippines, thai or even Cambodian & Thats fine. ON some rude racist encounters that I have had, when they ask me where Im from?? I tell them Im America Indian, Navajo or even Apache then I direct the question to them, WHERE ARE YOU FROM? its funny as hell, I have long hair and fit the profile. They back down right away LOL.

I have a issue though, there are many non white 10 generations+ Americans and more YET they still get asked the same question. Where are you from? but if a white Irish, french or and white looking Caucasians arrived yesterday, and has kids, their kids grow up here they will never be subjected to the question"WHERE ARE YOU FROM?" I think its just unfortunate but we gotta deal with this. NO MATTER how many generations of family you get here and they dont look white, the question will always be there BUT not all of the " where are you from?" is racially judgmental like homeyji writes. In fact most of the question is plain curiosity. Bottom line I dont let things like this bother  me at all.

  What's ur name bwaii ?   Why you hab a fonni accent ?   R you MexiCaaan ?    Or an UmriiiCaaan ?  ha ha ha ha  hasaucha manchey haru ley !!!

its not their fault..

It really depends on the motive of the person asking. Some people are just curious. I mean they don't know the difference between Nepal and Timbuktu. But on the other hand, I don't think that us Nepalis should be ashamed of our country in answering that question. There is nothing wrong with being from Nepal.

There was one time when I saw a family at the mall and I am quite sure that they were Nepali. So I approached them and not wanting to be pre-sumptuous I asked them, "Excuse me, where are you from?"
The older male in the family says, "India."
I was so convinced that he had to be Nepali so I asked, "Nepal or India..?"
The guy looked a little surprized that I asked him that and he said, "..oh..tapai Nepali ho? I am from Nepal also."

I thought it was a little sad. Maybe people have never heard of Nepal. But if every Nepali in America feels that it is too troublesome or embarrasing to explain that they are Nepali and where Nepal is, then no one will ever hear of Nepal. Why say that you are from India, just because more people have heard of India than of Nepal?

Am I tripping or what??

Since when did “Where are you from?” become against the etiquette rule? Say you are in kathmandu and a kuire approaches you and you start talking to him. Wouldn’t you want to know where he is from and wouldn’t you ask that question? If that’s not offending why are you offended here?

Psychologically, if you are offended by this question, deep down you are ashamed of your roots. You are trying to assimilate to the new culture and get irritated when somebody reminds you that you didn’t look like a local.

I’ve spent a long time here and do feel a little odd when somebody asks me where I am from. My oddness immediately goes away when I think rationally that it is a perfectly okay question to ask. I then tell them where exactly I am from: Nepal. Last thing I’d blame them to be is uncivilized.

My particular pet-peeve is when I ask someone, "Where are you from?" Hoping that I met a Nepali, and it turns out that it is an Indian.

And then the Indian will answer, "I am from India." And then he will look at me like, 'Why are you asking stupid questions?' And say, "Aren't you from India?"

And then I will very proudly say, "No, I am from Nepal." And then the biscuit brain will shrug me off and say, "India, Nepal, what's the difference?"

One of these days I will tell them: "The difference is that India is like a house filled with people without water. And Nepal is the water tank on top of India that makes sure that people in your house don't die of thirst."

i think this is an inferiority complex in a person to get offended by somebody asking you where you from. just like kiddo saying, think it the other way, would you not be asking the same question a foreigner you meet in kathmandu after few words with him.

most of the people have underlying intention of racism when they ask that question.unless you're white or ghetto black..u will alaways get that question.......it is color of skin and accent........its even more sad when people judge you from your accent rather than what you know or degree or credentials that you've earned

If people are friendly and curious then I am proud to say that I am from Nepal.

But if I ever detect that someone's motive is not good when asking that question, I simply smile at them and say, "Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus....I am from Mars. Where are you from?"

 I sometimes question myself why I don’t even try. Are we all this crazy or its just few posters here who come to Sajha to find their marbles.

 

So if somebody asks me where I am from, more than likely he/she is a racist. Gotcha. It sure is sad that they think I am not from United States when they see the color of my skin or my accent, no matter how much I try to correct it. How dare they assume that I am from outside USA and ask me such a sensitive question? Man this question should be banned and considered racial profiling.

 

Next up, don’t ask me How I am doing. I know you asked that question because I am from a third world country and I should not be doing great. How racist.

 

God save us.

LOL

I don't know who is the bigger exaggerator on this thread: Sunsweesh or Kiddo. Any votes?

We gotta learn to let go of our larger-than-life ego and take things positively. It works the best most of the times. Trust me on this! Yo bhayena ra tyo bhayen bhandai garera jindagi ra samaya kahan pugi sakeko thahai hundaina rahechha. Too much of whining and complaining is injurious to health (I think that should be a new statutory direction).  :)

Homeyji,

Me! Me!! Pick me!!!

(भोटचाई मलाई हैन निकेतलाई दिनु होला. )