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Posted on 08-11-13 9:10 PM     Reply [Subscribe]
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 Is there anyone in sajha who has married American male/female; not for the purpose for immigration? How did you tell your family back home and how did they react? How are things going on with you guys. I know this personal stuff but anyone experiences would help me. I am gettinng ready to marry this girl but I haven't really talked about it to my family back in Nepal. They know I am dating white girl but they don't know I have been thinking about getting married.  



 
Posted on 08-11-13 9:38 PM     [Snapshot: 68]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 you should already know how your family will react and everyones family is different-some are open while others are conservative.
 
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 Yeah, I kind of know how they will react, but I am just interested in knowing how other people handled there situation. I guess I am being too nosy on other people's business. 
 
Posted on 08-11-13 10:20 PM     [Snapshot: 156]     Reply [Subscribe]
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I agree with Kaji. You got to have a fairly good confidence on your family's potential reaction. If you have a gross doubt on that and mainly if you value your family's decision overrules yours, chances are you are not going to be happy. Don't mean to discourage you, though.

In our culture....they say something to the effect that 'a marriage is not just btn a boy and girl, it is btn a whole village to an another whole village'. If you believe in that you are better off with a Nepalese girl. Not to set the negative tone, but there are other important human sides (the traditional/cultural ones)  you may value more that only a Nepalese girl may fulfill.

But if you believe that you truly love this girl, and believe that YOU are the ONLY one to face the married life for a better or worse regardless of your wife's ethnicity, and believe that you two are well compatible to each other; it's the end of discussion. Your family loves you and they want you to be happy. 

I don't know your family background; mainly how open are conservative they are..('gaunko manchhe' don't necessarily make the conservative ones, I have seen super narrow minds in very well educated  and well-to-do families). If they have seen some precedence, they may be ok. If they are conservative, believe me the chances are even your Nepalese wife may not fit  in if lived together for more than a year or so. (Just visiting for 4wks in 2yrs might work.)

I know its a tough decision, I hope you will be able to sort it out. 
Good luck, brother.


 
Posted on 08-13-13 11:22 AM     [Snapshot: 1225]     Reply [Subscribe]
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 They know I am dating white girl but they don't know I have been thinking about getting married. 

Really! family back home, if think so, they most be very modern. I am sure you won't have any problems then.

Good Luck!

- Jangali Maanab


 


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