Too sad to hear the story. Depending upon your legal status you can file a legal separation/divorce. You will be receiving alimony depending upon your income and his income.
First try to fix it through the counseling and peer help, may be helpful. Most insurance covers it. How long you have been married and any children? If you can concentrate get a degree if you have one get higher on his expense.
Last edited: 10-Nov-10 05:06 PM
I am soo sorry to hear this. But if you are being decieved so many times and see the trend not to end anytime soon then you need to gain your self respect back. Hope you have a GC to legally here. Hope your husband has good savings so that you can get half of it to start a new base. Please take good care of yourself and sorround yourself with supportive girlfriends/ friends/family . Move to a bigger city and get a great job.Makeyourself over and Look Darn good. You dont deserve to be a Doormat for this guy. Hope things will get better for you girl!!
Well Look for Public Lawyers for Divorce they shouldn't be expensive . If you have decent job to make up your rent,Bills it's time to move on with your own life if you can fight to get some share from cheap dumb who is cheating on you usually when wife filing divorce from husband get some percent of husband's wealth in US .
Sorry to hear about your situation. The first thing you need to do it try to find LEGAL AID where you live. You have to call and set up an appointment, go to their office and fill out few forms. They will find an attorney/lawyer who will work free for you. You do not have to pay for any services. Your husband should have to share his finances/wealth with you. I know what you're going through. Good Luck ;-)
nepaliinus,
Before jumping into any conclusion, think 1000 times. May be there is nothing, may be it's just a misunderstanding. Who knows he might not be cheating on you. If he confesses that he is cheating on you then move on, do divorce in mutual understanding. Talk to him properly, understand his problems first. And let him understand your problems. Think big.
It's sad to know that he is cheating on you. Ask yourself first if you have ever cheated on him or not.
nepaliinus,
get a life, let him live his life. don't try to be too nosy haha
mr geek 1 vanna khojya k ???? afno buda le cheat garcha vanda is it being nosy ?? wtf ..idk whether ur a a guy or a gurl .. buh wud u let ur spouse [Disallowed String for - bad word] around or get [Disallowed String for - bad word]d around by many people n still not giv a damn ???
There's nothing to get scared when you are not happy with your life move and try to make life yourself and show you are not weak enough to break down with such behaviours of him .
Nepalinus
First of all tell us what u want us to do? Just share ur pain or give u suggestions. If the latter is true then I see many good suggestions posted above (eg Rekha's) and u don't seem to be doing anything about them, just complaining.
U have to take this in your hand. I think intervention is the way to go. You might want to involve some closed ones and have a meeting then confront ur husband together. Give him the ultimatum change his behavior or Devorce will be filed. If he does it again contact an attorney asap. If u think there is no way changing him, contact the attorney right now and file for devorce. Tell them u r unable to oay the legal fees. In most cases the husband has to bear ur expenses too.
Stop feeling bad for urself...get up and act!!
timi pani cheat agre bahihalyoni k ko tension, majjale din dinai naya keta sanga sutne ni, new life new experience, din dinai naya dick sochana timlai kasto pleasure huncha
Nepalinus,
Have some respect for yourself. He is not worthy of you. Once is a cheater, always a cheater. Your husband already proved that. He has disrespected you for more than a decade. When you gonna say enough?
Gold digging is kind a disease/addiction and can not be stopped and their mind works as food outside the house kitchen are cheesy and tasted good. *** Is some one counting on my comments? *** What is the total so far ?
Last edited: 12-Nov-10 09:02 AM
^ Please read and understand the definition of a golddigger or listen to Kanye's song on the title.
How can you even have second thoughts on this? Its already beyond belief that after all these years, you have still held onto the guy. If you have always been faithful from your side, then you need to get out of the relationship ASAP. Sorry if it sounds harsh, but tolerating an act like this shows your weakness and lack of self respect, which your spouse is proably feeding off of. Move on with your life girl!!
easier said than done.
no matter how unfaithful your spouse is. if you love them madly its hard to leave them. so each day you pray may be this is the day they will change and come back to you but they don't.
listen girl my advice don't divorce him now. after leaving him you will be broken and ruin your life. give some time to yourself be prepared to live your life alone. stay with him specially if you have child (I guess you have). live with him but don't expect anything from him be selfish, be mean, don't listen don't judge. just carry on with your life. make him realize he is missing something not you. When you see that you are mentally enough to handle your life or you kids can understand why you are separated then you can divorce. Even if you divorce right away it will not change him rather he will be free. So take time to take any decision. Be strong and God will be on your side.
God bless you
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