नेपाली समाजमा पुरूषलाई बढी स्वतन्त्रता छ नारीको तुलनामा, तर जब केटिहरू बिदेश पुग्छन् उनीहरूमा छाडापन चर्को रूपमा देखिन पुग्छ । जस्तो कि गाउँघर तिर बँधुवा बनाएर पालेका गाई भैँसीहरूलाई जब हिउँदको बाली काटेर खुला खेतबारी र खरबारीमा चरनको लागि चाड्न खोजिन्छ , बँधूवा जनावरहरू अचानक खुशीले उफ्रेर, दौडेर लड्न पुग्छन् र हात खुट्टा भाँच्न पनि पुग्छन् । नेपाली केटीको बाह्य संसारमा पुगेपछिको स्वच्छन्दताप्रियताको कथा पनि यस्तै खालको देखेको छु मैले, बिदेशमा पुगेपछि । कतिपय राम्रा छन् र मेरो कुराले उनीहरूलाई रिस नउठोस् , तर हाम्रा नारीले आफ्नो अस्मिताको ख्याल नगर्दा , तिनका कारणले राम्रा माथि पनि प्रश्न उठ्न सक्छ । अस्मिताको रक्षा पुरुषको पनि उत्तिकै जिम्मेवारीको कुरा  हो , तर नारीमा देखिने छाडापनबाट यो बढी प्रष्ट देखिन्छ ।

I find interesting how many of the educated people in Nepal still believe in male chauvinism, sexism and prejudices within. Education, experiences, influences and outlooks should have given us enough feedback to annul our misconception regarding male supremacy, but time and again, we find ourselves being victimized by our same old approach. We should have understood long ago that men and women both are human beings and although anatomically different they both should be given equal privileges in all grounds. Unfortunately that has not happened yet, especially when I see an extremely predisposed thread as this one supported by many.

Have we ever questioned ourselves if we hesitate becoming a gigolo?... I guess not, it never crosses our mind about the infamy it would create, instead we would be simply happy to get paid for sex. If it is an inconsequential matter for men, why should there be so much fanfare for women? Our Culture? Give me a break…but we are talking about physical and emotional liberation here, which are our rights and our decision no matter where we belong. Society? What society…. if it still supports the outmoded proposal that men are the bread earners while women are limited to chores?

Why don’t we understand this simple fact that given a little freedom, especially out of that claustrophobic society of Nepal, we want to get in terms with our sexuality, our extroversion and decimate our angst which perhaps necessitates change in our style of living and our eating habits? Women smoking cigarettes are still viewed scornfully in Nepal, while it establishes macho image for men, isn’t that hypocrisy? Isn’t that perversion? Agreed, everything should be done in moderation, and within limits. But then again, just because when few females in Australia found a different alternative to survive (when perhaps all doors for help were closed) why is it considered a hienous crime when male Nepalese students get away with smoking marijuana and screwing around like rabbits. Mind you, if we were in their shoes, and if we were desired by the fairer sex to the same extent as they were, we would have made a career out of it.  

Further I do not trust the grapevine; I do not trust our Australian ambassador who could possibly have blown it out of proportion since 8 out of 10 men in Nepal still believe that every woman smoking cigarette is a prostitute.

Appreciate it Nas!

Well said Jet Favre. 

 Shouldn't you retire your name though?    (in jest)