hiya folks,
Just a question to all married ppl in sajha. Were you guys had that feeling of fear of whatever you call.....commitment or future of yours? I am going through same feeling now. Its not that i dont want to get married. I love her and getting married on 18th of Feb...........There is all the excitment and sincerity is on the way.
One thing is bugging me a lot, is cant believe i am getting married. I am really scared now and cant sleep. The feeling of marriage just goes on my head...what about my life? what about the future? How it will turn up? will i have my personal space.
I really love this gal and i choose her up. It started off with the arrange things but Now it has turned into love in span of time. She is all, i want but just that fear within me is terrible.
Is this normal guys?
Help me out...........
Moneyminded,
Don't worry...it'll be wonderful...just enjoy and have fun....
Men you do not need to worry as long as you earn more money than your wife can ever spend. You will be happy!!! Just kidding!!!!
The fear before getting marry is all natural for everyone as I think. Lots of responsibilities and a it is a whole new thing. Sometimes you have to comromise things that you may not want to. But after all it is good things.
सर्ब प्रथम त बधाई छ । येदि पाट्नर बुझ्ने खाल्को छ भने भबिस्य राम्रो हुन्छ नत्र नर्क को बास ।
Congratulations.. Monyminded
Its very normal to have a fear of getting married when the time comes closer. I went through the same situation last summer. I was so overwhelmed by the thoughts of all responsibilities that come along with the marriage, but I knew that I truely loved my boyfriend(now husband) and was sure that he is the person I wanted to live my life with.
When I landed down to Nepal, I hardly had time to think about it and was all excited as my dream was coming true. It was hard to believe that my dream was coming true and but I knew everything things is going to be fine.
SO after we've been married for 7 months now, I still wonder if we've got married. The life has been the same, and we love eachother more everyday. Trust me everything will be alright and you would definately have a personal space which I think is important. Sometimes you just gotta do it becasue you choose to do so. Don't worry and have a relaxing sleep ;).
Once again CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK
Congratulation.Life starts now.
May be your nick name creates a huge problem after marriage(Just kidding)
Have a good time ahead.
Good luck moneyminded. I am sure you will be fine, although I know nothing. Give it your best and leave the rest...and I am sure things will work our for you and you will live happily ever after.
Moneyminded...how long have you known this girl you are going to marry? I think your fear might be coming from the fact that you havent seen her in different situations. You are probably not sure how she will react to the changes, how you two will adjust with each other. I would say, just keep an open mind about things and expect the unexpected.
I just got married last week to my boyfriend of 4 years so I knew what I was getting. We had gone through a lot and know what to expect from the other. We were so busy planning the wedding ourselves, I dont think I stayed up wondering about how life is going to be in a month. We were too busy calling the vendors, meeting and arranging things. As your wedding is not that far away...try to talk to her a lot, see if she is feeling the same as you. It will help both of you feel better... You said you love the girl...I am sure you will be fine. And just as you need your personal space, she will need hers...so I wouldnt worry too much about that.
It happens only once (well, for most of us) so try to enjoy the day and think positive. Maybe you can start planning a surprise honeymoon too. She will be thrilled that you put so much thought in to it...and meanwhile, it will keep you busy. My fiance had planned a surprise trip for us and I didnt know where we were going till I got to the airport...I must say that was the best part. So, think about it...and dont be too moneyminded...j/k.
CONGRATULATIONS AND GOOD LUCK
नडरौनुस् एउटा ठट्टा सुन्नुस् ।
एउटा बुद्धिमानी केटो ले एउटा सर्है लाटो लाई सोधेछ ।
ओइ लाट वीहा गरे पछी कस्तो हुन्दो र छ ।
लाटा(तोत्ले स्वर मा)- तार्है आनन्द हुन्तो लछ ।
Kalebhut is 100% right. The biggest risk we ever take in life is- getting married. There is nothing bigger than this. We can always re-arrange or put back everything the way it was once we lose or break, but the marriage thing is impossible. Once we break this, we can never glue the pieces the way they were before. I'm also trying to get married. I am trying to to find someone thru arrange fashion. Tired of playing cat & mouse game. The fear factor is there not onl y for girls but also for guys. And ai'm a very liberal and reasonalble person. So, g'luck to all of us! :)
A crop bears innumerable number of grains yet not all have to germinate. Most of them are consumed by upper-level guys in the food chain, die, rot etc...
Anyway, getting back to the 'pwaint', not every couple necessarily have to succeed in a marriage, I mean they don't have to stay together forever. Have you guys ever thought of divorce lawyers out there whose survival is dependent on divorcing couples?
You know these divorce specialists also have to pay bills and/or have family to feed. So I hear a voice from above 'My child do not be afraid of the marriage. Enjoy the next seven years or till the waterfalls run dry'
Huu Haa!
;P
I think it is little different for girls and the guys. I haven't heard anything from my wife of 6 years about 'scary feeling' or 'getting scared' till now....but hell, I was scared like a pig being slaughtered !! As far as I can tell, life will take a drastic turn after your marriage... There will be less freedom when it comes to 'what you want to do' or where you want to hang out...but there will be things to enjoy...like cooking (trust me...you will enjoy it together !!), watching movie in your living room instead of in a Theatre (that will sometime be a Hindi movie), taking a long walk in the saturday morning in the beach and so on... I am sure you had done this with your GF but it will be different with your wife...and it will be different when you do the same thing with your pregnant wife or with your family.
Is it good or bad ? I don't know. It all depends on your perspective... and what you are looking for. I am happy because I feel that I was done being wild and untamed... I was ready for more subtle and serious life. That definitely came after my wife...and the kids :-)
Good luck and hope it will give you some insight of what might be coming...
Well thanks a lot for all the suggestion. I will be tying knot after 10 days. Onething for sure is like " Few days before marriage is better than one year love affari". Specillay I don belive now.....when your wedding lagan comes, you cant avoid. How many times i said i will be getting married? Finally, time came and now its happening. I think these things are already written in heaven.
May be San bro can keep some space for me on the Ramjham for the pictures. I am sure everyone wants to see MM wedding happening in Bhadrakali Temple. The party will be on the next day @ my working place 1905. If any sajha ppl in ktm pls do call me on my cell 9841333628, i dont want you guys miss all the action.
Well guys bless me .................specially when i am starting wine education and awarness. I am blessed by lot of ppl in nepal as first wine sommelier of nepal. I hope to have it acheived along with my wife who happens to be Microbiologist.
Thanks all the mate, sad to see lot of old sajhaties missing................missing like nivan, dhannah,rastafariyan,bathroom coffee, sandrust lahure, sitara, ashu, nepe, redston and lot more
mm bro u actually made my job a lot easier!!hehe..well anyways congrats from me :oD..me no experience on such things called marriage so guess i cant really say much(tho i still will most prob will end up sayn more than most?hah ;oP hehe)
i guess we do feel fear cos of uncertainty(which u mentioned)..esp if we do care about it..so its all a natural reaction and in ur case this shows how much all this(she) means to u ;o) hehe..so its all good?i mean if we know(seen from some old post ;oP hehe) u aint the type to marry for the sake of marryn hoina?
darn how i wish i was in nepal right now..i still havent been to a nepali wedding(its still an unfulfilled wish and hopefully it will come true one day..and def not wishing to attend as a groom hai ;oP..tho i do dream of quite some absurd things..i def dun and have not dared dream of such a thing hai hehe) and i just have these good vibes that ur bihe will be lots of fun ;o) hehe..well with u as a groom will u let that happen?no way hoina?hehe..
anyways congrats again..and cheers to ur future and the step ur takin :oD...and def lookin foward to seeing wat u share in ramjham next time ;o) hehe....
and oh nice seeing u back here again :oD
good day!:oD
Congrats dude, Wish you all the best.
MM,
Congrats for going to get married!!!
Hoping to see your wedding pics soon.
PANCHE BAJA chahi nabirsinu hai, subha bibaha.
डर त लाग्छ नि होउ , मेरो case मा चै मेरी बेहुली म भन्दा अलि निकै खानदानी म चै धेरै गरिब , घर नि पुरानो , बिहे गरे पछि दुख पाउछे म संग खुसि हुन्न कि भन्ने डर लाग्ने . हामी प्राय मकै कोदो खाने दुलही सदै धानको भात खाने औकात कि , long टर्म मा कुरो मिल्दैन कि हान्ने सधै डर लाग्ने . ससुराली मा टिका लाउन = जादा नि आफ्नो कपडा मा धुवा गनाको गणको छ कि जस्तो हुने , दुलही का आफन्ती को घर बार हेर्दा आफु छक्क पर्ने , तर बिहे पछि चै मेरी दुलही ले take it easy गरिन . तेस्पछि भाग्य ले अम्रिका तिर पठायो अनि सबै ठिक भयो
हैन हौ टिपनटापन ब्रो लाई के भाको छ , यो धागो श्रीजना गर्नेको छोरा छोरीको मुतुनो चल्न थाली सक्यो खोजी खोजी ब्युत्याउछ्यौ , कि सम्धी हुने बिचार हो ? धन्न ब्रोले तिम्रो बुढीको मुतौरो टाइट छ कि छैन सोधाई सँगै ब्यापार बन्दोबस्त बारे लेखेनछौ ? ब्रो देलिभरिको बेला सङै हुँदा बच्चा आउन बुढीको मुजी तन्किएको देखेर मुर्छा परेका तपाईंनै हुनु पर्छ, कोम्प्लिकेसन को कारण सि-सेक्सन हुनाले टाइटनै रहने भयो भनी दाङदास पर्नु भएको छ , अलिक पछी मुज्जिएको मुजी देखे पछी मुर्छा होईन माथिनै पुग्नु होला, यो पढे पछी तपाईं मुर्छा बाट ब्युतिनु हुनेछ (head up for you)
आज भोली हामी सबै भाते भन्दा ढिडे बन्नु परेको छ , बानी पार्न अलिक गाह्रो भएको छ , ब्रो लाई चै गाह्रो नहोला |
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