Namaskar and Good Morning. Happy New Year to all the community members.
magorkhe1, you have raised a genuine concern about cyber trolls and Internet Bullying. I too was wondering about the topic of post moderation in Sajha. While I have no solution than what is already hugely discussed in the media, I did wanted to get a critical review of community moderation techniques that could be used.Going off the topic: The US First Ladies, historically, have been supporting a (any) social cause for public good. The incoming First Lady even said that she wanted to work on the issue of Cyberbullying. Just to highlight that this is a topical issue that we should discuss.
In this specific case, wishing upon somebody's mother to be dead is a spiteful comment. But in the world of Internet Troll we may have read other comments that are even worst. Therefore I could never have guts to post my funny videos in Youtube. Just reading comments directly attributed to my looks and commenters wishing death upon my family members would make me take 20 vicodins. To dissect this particular case you are talking about: I too had undergone the pain of my wife leaving me for a young another stud. So when anyone anywhere, no matter if it is in Sajha or in some other blogs or in Reddit, talk about denigrating a guy whose female spouse had left because their phallic strength and time commitment did not satisfy their wife's sexual desire, I feel like they are talking about me. Although, in your case you did not imply that. You were nicely attributing 'Poila Jane Budhi situation' with the opinion that married couples have to be mindful about time commitment to their spouse. But whenever I read posts that are even slightly similar to my own personal situation, I get enraged and have a desire to comment obnoxiously till that Original Poster bleeds phlegm of disgust. That is how I feel. But the internet has no recourse for me because my personal situation although not entirely unique is particularly rare. Then there is this perception of Nepali Diaspora. I have a perception that I am a member of Nepali community (a small group of friends whom we frequent with) and that I have a social standing in that community. So you are right about this gray line that we have to be mindful about when we are commenting about others. While in your case, a broad brush statement about a personal situation is not entirely antagonistic, you would expect some backlash from folks like me whom your comments may have innocently offended. There is no one size fits all solution to this problem.
TL;DR: How do we make sure that Internet Trolls do not post unpermitted private information like actual name, physical address, Facebook profiles, email and other information that discloses Personally Identifiable Information, here in Sajha?
