Hello all,
Need serious suggestions. I got married a few months back in Nepal. It was arranged type of thing. Everything wa alright until I met my ex a week before wedding. She persisted me to meet her for the last time and I did so. She called me two days before my wedding but I asked her not to call me or text and told her I was getting married. Story doesn't end there. She asked me to forgive her, give her a chance and cancel the wedding. Instead of canceling the wedding, I asked her to run away and to get married in a court, but she denied. She just wanted me to run away but I couldn't trust her; the reason was straight. She left me when we had a small fight over her ex being her best friend and on her facbook; I tried to save the relation for 5 long months; and finally got married.
When I returned back home from wedding, I realized I lost feelings for my wife. It went so bad, guys. I was like I made a huge mistake. I couldn't even sleep well with my wife while I was back in Nepal. Since I left Nepal, I haven't spoken with my wife. That's not the only thing, I haven't been able to sleep, work or do anything. I have been punishing myself for not giving another chance to my ex and for ruining my wife's life.
I just got an email from my employer that I was terminated due to poor performance. I have nothing now. Lost family because they forced me so much for marriage even I wasn't ready. Lost wife since I haven't spoken with her since I married her. Lost that ex bitch. Lost health and wealth. Almost everything.
Dear brothers, sisters and friends on sajha, I need your advices on divorce. Is divorce ethically or morally right? If I ask my wife to divorce me, would it be considered as I ruined her life? Would I stick with her even I don feel anything for her? Is it okay to seek divorce in Nepal if marriages don't work? Would I have to regret all my life for just divorcing her? Please guys, throw in some fruitful suggestions and some hopes to stay alive. I am being frustrated and sucidal thoughts are coming accross my mind.
Moran's dwell on past and ruin their present life.
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Last edited: 11-Sep-16 01:27 AM
You are thinking about your ex who left you for somebody else and want to get back to you again. You must be one weak emotional piece of shit. You talk about being forced to get married. You are a grown ass man and you are looking for excuses right now. You are a selfish dude. I would never associate with a prick like you even if you were my own blood, i would disown you in a second.
How can a human being go to sleep with these malicious thinking. You are right that you cant sleep, but not for the reasons you have stated, instead you should be losing sleep for ruining that poor girl that you married.
@BigrekoManxe
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.....do what you want to do ..however think about this ...if you divorce your wife in Nepal she will probably never be able to get married again so you will be ruining her life.
But then again it all depends upon the situation if your wife is independent and doesnt give a shit about you as well then yea , it might be just easier and healthier to get a divorce.
Bigreko dude..marriage not working because you are too busy focusing on your ex..grow pair of balls and tell your ex to fuq off and love your wife..only thing your ex is doing is called rebound love or maybe revenge.. Usually with rebound, girls can't find a guy or feel insecure and goes back to the ex's..if I were you I would ditch the bitch to the curb and take the wife to seaside..but again, it's easy for me to say, you are the only who has to live with it .. So dude take a chill pill and do what you think is best for both of you.
Get that ex out of your life. Case closed.
Let me tell you the truth. I am not with my ex neither we talk. But, yes I think of her. I regret that I was not able to give her a second chance. This is what is killing me. I am kinda guy who doesn't make false promises. If I make, I try my best to make them true. In some extent, I tried too but I got my ego hurt from her. Only reason I gave up on her. And it it killing me. Was it a reason to give up?
I need some kinda therapy guys. I am in a difficult situation. I strongly believe that I made a mistake by giving up on her. And it kills me everyday.
Secondly, when we met a week before my wedding, we exchanged kisses. I knew that I was marrying the other girl but I now think like why did I kiss her? Another point of regretting here.
Third, I told her that I was getting married when she texted me back two days after Valentine's Day. Actually she called me to meet up on Valentine's Day but when I asked to meet. She said she didn't call me and she wasn't sure about the relation. So I said 'yes' to my wife for marriage. Then family fixed my wedding date.
Forth, my ex didn't believe that I was getting married. She though I was just making her jealous. When we met, I asked her to run away and get married in the court but she said nothing. So I couldn't cancel my wedding. What I thought at that time was it was wasting of time with her since she didn't seem serious.
What I believe now is why did I have to get married? Why did I have to ruin two lives? Why ? It's not a point that I couldn't marry my ex, my point is I had to forget the ex first and then get married after a year or so. These feeling are what are killing me.
Why ? Why ? Why did I do this?
Thank you all for your geniune replyes.
Grow the f**k up and talk to your wife! Your ex is a goner. You didn't ruin her life. Let bygones be bygones. Instead of dwelling on your past, look to make a better future and the correct way of doing that is making up with your wife.
looks like you ex is too hot and your present wife is not!
in that case, you are totally screwed. consider taking your wife to beautician and give her compkete make over. new underwears as well.
drink or smoke and get real horney all the time. dont let love even come. think of your ex (while) and bang your totally make up filled wife. bang bang and more bang
in few months you'll start loving your new wife and forget that ex.
"ज ब पस्यो, तब माया बस्यो"
Yo mula tehi Pharsi ta hoina ? Malai ta ho jasto lagcha. Bro le fariya lagairakheko ta chaina ? Man Up. U made the decision and now dont run away from it.
By the way u can still bang ur ex if u want. But dont let ur wife kno or dont u think abt leaving her. By the look of it, ur ex looks like a perfect item for a mistress.
simple (circuit ko bhasa ma), when you do think of your ex.
I am kinda guy who doesn't make false promises. (define false, define promises) - lol no you are not. liar
Last edited: 16-Sep-16 10:42 AM
@bairagi,
Ko pharsi? Thank you for your advice.
@nayapidi
Please don't make fun of me. Imagine wha would have done in my situation?
Let me paste someone's quote "
Moron and Stupid people dwell on Past Life and ignore present."
FYS.
Last edited: 17-Sep-16 12:40 PM
First, I would never be in your situation.
Second, you quoted that you don't make false promises and yet you did. What do you expect? You deserved what you asked for. Karma is a bitch remember.
This guy has no guts to forget his ex and move on. He is selfish prick just thinking of his life. If you were so concerned, you should have never got married. "Panimaruwa", do you have what it takes to be man under your pants?
Sorry for harsh words, but your attitude of ruining someone else's life is just sickening me. If your wife is ok with it, i am sorry for all my words.
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Bigrekomanche,
1. As everyone said, you need to get your shit together. This is not the end.
2. You need to begin a fresh chapter with your wife. Do not regret and do not look back.
3. Try something different. Go away on a honeymoon just you and your wife. Spend some quality time. Get to know her better and let her know you better. Be open and again DO NOT LOOK BACK.
Ex is not a full stop. It is the end of a paragraph and beginning of a new paragraph. If you keep on pressing backspace, how can you move forward?
Give me a try bro. Good luck!
BE A MAN!! No need to stress out.. just focus on present.. past is past and is done..
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