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Eutab4
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I think the problem is YOU.


codsmile
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How so?  btw- I am a women, if you were thinking something else. 
Eutab4
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My dear codsmile, first off: chitta nadukhau hai? Halka joke ko hisab le bhaneko ho kya. 

Now serious turn:
With all due respect, I would like for you to watch how her thoughts are popping up and evolving pertaining to a particular action of her husband. Are you just listening to her or are you approving her convictions which perhaps are fueling her thought patterns. I would suggest that you be very observant on this. 

While I totally understnad this poor young lady having to go through this agony, don't make any hasty judgements nor any decisions. I know, you think it's easier for me to say but unbearable for your friend to live it. Look in the retrospect, could this guy have been mentally ill, or violent towards her, or etc etc? Based on what you are saying, the case at hand is more of care and he not changing his lifestyle as a married man. Would you agree?

Has she sat down and had a very soul conversation with him on how she feels? I get it she doesn't think he will listen or even provides atmosphere to do that. But HAS SHE TRIED THAT? 

Let me ask you...how many of us live a Bindas life while single? How many of us are very career oriented? 
What if this guy also is that sort, but still a very nice inside. Not everyone can change their life, like a light switch, from the day of wedding. He has not calibrated himself as a married man. So since you mentioned that they are just married, I would suggest that she give more time. And don't take it wrong...You definitely don't fuel her, perhaps immature, feelings. 
Last edited: 27-Jun-13 03:56 PM
codsmile
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 Thank you eutab4! I very much appreciate your response. This is the first time I had posted anything on sajha, so got little worried and removed my original post. 

Trust me, I am trying to help her and I am telling her to work it out with him. He seems to be very stub burn, and is not ready to change his mind set. And like you said, when I speak with him last time he speaks nicely. 

But, he is very conservative in nature as he have not seen the whole world. Can you beleive he did not even bought a gift or even a cake for my friend on her birthday. But he is ok, going out when her friends are willing to take them out and pay for them. This is just something I have never seen/experienced before. So, I was just trying to seek suggestion that I can tell my friend. I do want their marriage to work, but don't know what should I suggest. 

Last edited: 27-Jun-13 04:25 PM
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